Legal Advice Domestic partner is threatening to publicly destroy me if I don’t pay him $25k to leave the relationship. |
- Domestic partner is threatening to publicly destroy me if I don’t pay him $25k to leave the relationship.
- UPDATED PA – parents bought a house six years ago. Two separate groups of people came around claiming to be previous owners who left something there and would like to look around to find it. Actual previous owner died at the end of February.
- Non-Party in a defamation case, 20x contact attempts from Plaintiff directly, am I obligated to talk to them or can I ignore it?
- Do you need to disclose that a dash cam is recording audio to an officer during a traffic stop?
- I got assaulted in Giants by an employee's son.
- My divorce lawyer wants to start a relationship
- I think my (now ex) landlord is trying to force us to pay for upgrades to home.
- Forged vaccination document
- Home Builder sold us wrong floorplan. Then told us, "in light of current market, take it or leave it"--Do we have options other than backing out?
- Roofers collapsed my ceiling, Landlord is unresponsive
- Parent passed almost 2 years ago, Mortgage Company still wont switch over the title to us.
- Customers’s extended family harassing us
- Someone is using my address to send potential renters as a scam.
- Potential retaliation for CPS/DCS report
- [OR] I adopted a dog 4 years ago in a different county and registered him as a service animal. My ex is threatening to reregister him in a new county and take him away.
- [NJ] Implied abandonment of public right-of-way?
- If I have a car but I’m a minor, can I take it to my other parents and have it stay there?
- Car dealership seems to be eating up warranty time and not refunding money [US] [Colorado]
- Unsupervised probation and suspended license
- Rent-to-own mobile home heavily damaged by negligent driver, Landlord has done nothing to repair or replace the home.
- United States - Florida - My grandmother passed away in 2019 and gave my brother Power of Attorney and he spent most of her money on himself and 20k on Forex and got scammed. leaving me with almost nothing for my portion of the inheritance.
- [TN] 16 year old trying to get away from her father
| Posted: 02 May 2021 07:31 AM PDT Relationship of 6 years. He moved in my (owned since 2008) home in July 2019. How do I get out of this situation?
Please help advise me regarding what steps to take next! [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 01 May 2021 03:39 PM PDT After my first post my parents had another person visit who was also much like the previous ones, aggressive and wouldn't take no for an answer. They were also contacted that same day by someone claiming to be an executor for a will, and that person was much more sensible but dad still told them he wouldn't hand over anything but to contact his lawyer, which they understood, and did so. We found out via the executor and dad's lawyer that there was a will where the previous owner indicated some belongings accessible with a set of keys in a distinctive described key pouch. Not long after dad moved in he'd found that exact set of keys while renovating the bathroom and almost threw them out as they didn't match any locks in the house. They'd been tossed in a kitchen drawer for years. Dad's lawyer said there was no reason not to hand the keys over, but no reason to do so either, and it was up to him. He handed the keys over to the executor through his lawyer. I would have expected if anything was left to someone in a will the executor would have the power to drill any locks needed, but we guess it just makes their life easier. There were about thirty keys. It's not the proceeds of a fifty year old bank heist hidden in the walls, but a little bit interesting. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 03:56 AM PDT I am a Non-Party in a defamation case (California court). The Plaintiff learned my identity through a subpoena requesting account information. Since then (2 days ago...), I have received 10+ phone calls from 4 different numbers (some coming at 2am), 10+ blank emails from 3 different gmail accounts, 3x heavy-breathing voicemails, and some "call me when u have a moment" text messages (also from different numbers). In their declaration in order to request my identity, they ended it with, "Will not harass in the future", but this surely feels like petty harassment to me. Am I obligated to communicate with this person? Can I file a motion to "fuck off"? (kidding) [link] [comments]  |
| Do you need to disclose that a dash cam is recording audio to an officer during a traffic stop? Posted: 02 May 2021 07:07 AM PDT I understand that in Oregon you are supposed to disclose to an officer if you are recording audio. Does that extend to a dash cam? Or is that legal to record in a car because it it your private space? [link] [comments]  |
| I got assaulted in Giants by an employee's son. Posted: 02 May 2021 08:44 AM PDT I went to Giants and when I was checking out I was given the wrong change. I disputed with the cashier and she tried to get aggressive and called her son to threaten me. Her son came and beat me up inside Giants. The manager helped the son and the cashier escape as we called the cops. The cops filed a assault report and asked the manager for video footage but the manager did not comply. I want to know if I need to hire a lawyer and if I have a good case. [link] [comments]  |
| My divorce lawyer wants to start a relationship Posted: 01 May 2021 05:17 PM PDT I hope this is the right place to talk about this. I could really use some advice. I recently hired a divorce lawyer. We filed months ago, but my ex was threatening me about getting a lawyer so I put it off. The lawyer has already helped me more than I could have hoped and I'm so grateful for that. He's been encouraging and supportive, calling or texting me at least once a day to check in and make sure I'm ok. (I've been scared, worried, and literally sick from stress, among other things. I can't keep food down, I'm losing weight, and my hair is falling out. I'm also taking meds and getting treatment for my mental health.) I didn't realize that it was more than friendly until he flat out told me that he liked me and was interested in pursuing a relationship. I brushed it off as a joke and told him that I wanted to focus on myself for now. The situation got even more complicated last night when he called me at about two in the morning, drunk and in tears, because he's apparently married, in a bad relationship, and he misses me. He thinks finding me was fate and that we're meant to be. I've never actually met him and have only known him for a few weeks. I'm incredibly grateful for his help but I'm in a very awkward position. I need his legal expertise and have already given him around $7,000 (that I had to borrow because my ex emptied my account) and don't want to start over with someone new, but I'm not really looking for a relationship right now. He's his own boss so there is no asking for another lawyer within the firm. It doesn't help that I talked to him about being cheated on and how I was coerced to sleep with other people. I don't want to be involved with someone else's cheating and I think the "sleeping with other people" caught his attention because it was one of the things he mentioned on the late night call and I'm just so tired. What do I do? What can I do, if anything? I can try to hold him off until the divorce is final but that could be months from now and he's already talking about wanting to meet. Plus, there's always a chance I'll have to meet him for court. I spent almost twenty years afraid to tell a man "no" and now I feel like I'm right back where I started. [link] [comments]  |
| I think my (now ex) landlord is trying to force us to pay for upgrades to home. Posted: 02 May 2021 08:02 AM PDT TDLR: we moved out and patched our holes from the TV mounts and are told we ruined the fresh paint job that was done before we moved in. I have pictures proving it was never freshly painted and only touched up before we moved in. They want to charge us $1,600. Live in Utah. Moved into a rental at the beginning of 2020- the landlords (S & M) lived in the east coast while their son and daughter in-law (C & R) took care of the home. The son is a "construction worker" (in quotations because I believe people can know what they are doing, but choose to do it partially because it's cheaper). The rental: it looked beautiful in the pictures but I was very hesitant because when you REALLY looked at the home, you could see the normal wear and tear hadn't been kept up very well- the patch work on the walls was VERY visible through the paint, counter tops bubbling, flooring separating, grease splattered all over in the kitchen, and the master bath had mold in the caulking (that WE replaced).. BUT the carpet was brand new, and the space was workable. The second visit had patchwork on the wall to repair a hole from the previous tenant- you could see it still needed to be re-painted (touched up) to match the paint again. I had a conversation with C before we moved in because I was concerned about being blamed for the damage that was already throughout the house, her words were- "Oh we know about all the damage and small repairs that need to be done, you won't be." My confusion: we cleaned that place immaculately (compared to how it was when we moved in), and patched our holes from any hooks and TV mount- my dad taught me how to do this correctly- it just needs a soft grit sand and paint to be good to go. With only needing the paint to be touch up - it seemed like an easy job to leave for them because they had a whole bucket when we moved in. I received a text from the landlord saying the patches ruined the fresh paint that was done before we moved in. . . I tried to explain the place was never freshly painted before we moved in- because I couldn't scrub the grease off the walls without stripping the paint, so we left it. (C saw me scrubbing and I told her it wasn't worth ruining the paint.) S went on to say that it would be $1,600 to patch and paint. But when I asked what needed to be patched- she didn't have a direct answer. So I told her any further conversations will be in person. (Alot of he said/she said on their part). The walls/ceilings have cracks and regular damage you would expect from a home- there was no way I would attempt any of those fixes. I really think they are wanting us to just pay for their upgrades. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 06:16 AM PDT My coworker admitted to me that he purchased a forged covid 19 vaccination card so he can "go to Mets games." What is the best way to report this kind of thing and what kind of ramifications are involved. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 08:32 AM PDT My wife and I recently started the process of building a home in Hutto, Texas. The housing market here is absolutely bonkers with home going 30%+ over market value. Because of this, we were ecstatic to happen upon a community that seemed perfect. They were within our budget and met our time line perfectly. Even better, we somehow floated to the top of the waiting list seemingly overnight. We met with the building rep, did a model walk-through, and saw the slab (this is a pre-planned community). We were in love and truly felt blessed. We happily handed over our earnest money. Fast forward two weeks and my wife and I walk through the framed home. Some oddities quickly present themselves. The floorplan has been altered. Nothing super dramatic, but closets moved, bathrooms shifted. Perhaps worst of all, they made some egregiously stupid changes in the master bath resulting in a room that now feel stifling. None of this was communicated to us, of course. So we contact our agent and he says this is highly irregular and he'll contact the building rep. Mostly, we're upset at how poor the communication is, but also my wife is very upset about the master bath. She doesn't want or need a closet larger than the bathroom--which is the result of the change. Building rep admits it's their mistake. The floorplan was updated and he never updated the listing and had no idea. His final note, "I hope you are receptive to the changes." We knew right then we were screwed. Per our agents suggestion, he tried to hold the builders feet over the fire and get some sort of reparations. In lieu of their mistake, we expected to hear something along the lines of, "here's what we can do to make it up to you" or something of that nature. What we get back is, "in light of the current market, take it or leave it." We're crushed and have zero faith in the builder now, but we can't back out of this home at this point. We'd have to wait another year and spend gobs more money trying to get into something else. So, do we have any recourse or avenues otherwise hold the builder responsible? [link] [comments]  |
| Roofers collapsed my ceiling, Landlord is unresponsive Posted: 02 May 2021 11:40 AM PDT I'm not really sure what to do: I am a tenant in Florida. I rent a house with 3 others roommates, and our lease is up in June. I have had a crack in my ceiling for over a month now, and I mentioned it to my landlord las month. She said she would fix it after we move, I said that was unacceptable and a worker came and did a very shoddy patch job on it. Fast forward a month and they have been doing showings, and I assume they are not going well because the house is in horrible condition. Two days ago workers showed up without a warning and did some landscaping, the following day we were told they would be working on the roof and to clear the driveway for them. It was ridiculously loud and woke us all up at 8 am on a Saturday, so I decided to get out of the house for a bit and come back when they were nearing completion. When I came back I found the entire ceiling had collapsed and the room was completely covered in dust and soot. If I had been in there it could have been disastrous. No one even notified me that my room was essentially destroyed. The room is completely unsafe to inhabit, the workers went into my room without permission, and we cannot even park in our own driveway. The roofing is still going on to my knowledge, and there was no notice about the workers being here today. I have called, emailed and texted my landlord but to no avail. I am very upset about the whole situation and have had to stay in a hotel. I am going to demand that they pay for the stay, but with their level of responsiveness I do not expect them to, and I fear I will have to take legal steps after. I would appreciate any advice before I reach out to an attorney in the area for a consultation on the matter. TL;DR: Roofers collapsed my roof while I was not in there, landlord is not responding, and I want them to pay for alternative housing because it is unsafe, what can/ should I do? [link] [comments]  |
| Parent passed almost 2 years ago, Mortgage Company still wont switch over the title to us. Posted: 02 May 2021 04:56 AM PDT My mom died july 2019, and in january of that year she refinanced the mortgage on our 3 bed 2 bath home in Portland Oregon. She got a very good deal and our mortgage payments are about $1250 + utilities. We still have the home and pay it every month, but the company has refused to switch the mortgage onto mine & my sisters name (she co owns with me). Her estate was settled months ago along with everything else except for this one thing. As a young adult this would be great for my credit to show that I pay a mortgage but because it is under a dead persons name we gain no benefit off of it. Is there any legal action to force them to change it? How can they legally keep it under a dead persons name? It has also made my taxes quite confusing this year. Any sort of clarification would be awesome. Thanks! edit: forgot to include location [link] [comments]  |
| Customers’s extended family harassing us Posted: 02 May 2021 01:58 PM PDT Wow, I cannot believe I have to post something like this, but I'm beginning to think I may need to unfortunately take legal action against someone. A customer picked up an order the other day, and somehow after leaving, they spilled their sealed beverage all over their order on their way home. They phoned in, the whole conversation was this customer yelling and saying very odd things, blaming us for the mishap. The conversation ended, and not much later the customer's relative from another state (CA) called in to yell at us as well. Now this conversation was even more bizarre. However, I again ended the conversation as it was very clear it was not going anywhere plus I was a bit confused as to why they felt it appropriate to even make that call. This person attempted to call back again, however we did not answer. Now here's where it gets crazy, since the phone calls they had had family emailing, posting false reviews, and posting false comments on our social media. The individual from another state has now made a review, and in this review they state I cursed at them and that they recorded the conversation (stating I consented to being recorded). I am positive I did not curse, nor did they tell me they were recording. The state I'm in (WA) is a two party consent state. I have not responded to any emails, posts, comments, or reviews as I was hoping they would stop. I was raised that you do not argue with stupid (for lack of a better term) as there are no winners. But I'm thinking I may need to do something to protect myself from continued harassment. Any advice is appreciated. [link] [comments]  |
| Someone is using my address to send potential renters as a scam. Posted: 02 May 2021 10:40 AM PDT I'm currently on vacation while my husband and son are at home having "potential tenants" come by in droves, looking in our windows, trying to unlock our doors. He called the cops who told him to call back on Monday!! Any advice other than put up with it?? This is ridiculous and I'm worried someone will try to get into our fenced in yards where our dogs run freely. We own the home and are not renting it out. [link] [comments]  |
| Potential retaliation for CPS/DCS report Posted: 02 May 2021 12:29 PM PDT Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I'm disabled and in a wheelchair. I just moved to a new neighborhood for financial reasons. For the first 2 weeks, all was well. Today, however, as I was outside on my back porch, I heard a child screaming next door. I looked over, and her dad was beating her (pretty hard too). The little girl is probably around 3 years old. He was also yelling at her and telling her to shut up and stop crying. It made my heart sink. As I was watching and trying to figure out what was going on, the man looked over at me and we made eye contact. I turned around and went back inside. Call me a coward, but I'm in a wheelchair and I know that I can't defend myself. This man is pretty scary looking, probably around 6'3 and 200-220 pounds. He has tattoos all over his face. I admit it, I was scared. My problem is, what kind of legal protections do I have if I were to report him to CPS/DCS? I know that the right thing to do is to report, but I'm truly scared. If this guy is willing to beat his 3 year old daughter, what would he do to me if I reported him? If I report, he will definitely know that it was me, because we made eye contact and there was nobody else outside. Should I file a protective order against him? And since we're neighbors, how would that work? He obviously wouldn't be able to keep 500 feet (or whatever it is) away from me, as we live right next to each other. Also, is there anything else I could do, other than the protection order? What if he doesn't listen to the protection order and beats me up/vandalizes my house anyways? I'm stuck. I have no idea what to do. I know what the right thing to do is, but I also think that I should look out for my own safety as well. It seems like filing a CPS report would just be suicide. Any advice? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 11:18 AM PDT In 2017 I adopted my dog in a county in southern oregon and a couple years ago I moved to central oregon and took him with me. I didn't do anything with registering him here because I didn't know. My ex and I broke up and it's been messy. I let her hold on to him while I moved out but she constantly threatens me with stuff like moving away with him and reregistering him so he's in her name without me. Because I never did that, is she able to just get him new papers and take him out of my name so that he's not my dog anymore? I left him with her since she's mentally ill and I figured she can benefit more but she has done some truly crazy stuff during this break up and I don't want my dog to just disappear one day and me never see him again. Is she just making made up threats? Or does she have actual recourse? [link] [comments]  |
| [NJ] Implied abandonment of public right-of-way? Posted: 02 May 2021 08:34 AM PDT I purchased my property in 2016, which is a corner lot. The adjacent road was a dead-end that was not being maintained by the municipality, but was removed as part of a road improvement project in 2020. The land was converted to grass that is now continuous with my lawn with new curbing and sidewalks, and also contains a storm drain. I'm wondering if the removal of the roadway and converting it to lawn creates a termination of the public right-of-way, whether through impossibility of use, end of necessity, or abandonment, even without the municipality issuing ordinance that vacates it. If so, would a prescriptive period apply? [link] [comments]  |
| If I have a car but I’m a minor, can I take it to my other parents and have it stay there? Posted: 02 May 2021 07:43 AM PDT So I'm about to get my first car. My parents are split and I live with my mom but my dad gets visitation but I'm thinking about just leaving here and living with my dad. If I did that I'd be further away from my friends and girlfriend so I'd need a car to go see them. My dad isn't financially too well off and probably couldn't afford a car so if I got a car at my moms could I legally take it with me to my dads if I go and live there? [link] [comments]  |
| Car dealership seems to be eating up warranty time and not refunding money [US] [Colorado] Posted: 02 May 2021 10:57 AM PDT [telling story from Dad's POV, as I am the brother of the recipient of the car] I bought my son a used car from a dealership. The car came with a warranty, for about 2 or 3 months. My son gets the car, had it for a week, maybe 2, and needed to return the car to the dealership for maintenance. He needed to replace some sensors in the car. A week after, we got the car back. The engine ceased only 4 days after the car was returned, and the dealership was called. They dealership hasn't given my son a title within 30 days. Bellow is a comment I made on Facebook:
Summary: Trying to get money back for a car I haven't had for more than 1.5 months, it was in the shop more than it was driven. Mechanic rushed through the first maintenance and caused the engine to develop rod tick/knock. The engine ceased only 4 days after the car was returned from the dealership the first time. Are there any legal steps I can take to get my money back? [link] [comments]  |
| Unsupervised probation and suspended license Posted: 02 May 2021 02:17 PM PDT Last year during the pandemic I got arrested for lying about my info, and driving without my license on me.(this was in missouri) I got put on unsupervised probation, and I think a fine that I was supposed to pay (I was an addict at the time, and had no money). In the last few months I moved to texas, got clean, and received backpay from unemployment. I had my license suspended back then for this I believe. I have two questions. One, I'm pretty sure it was legal for me to leave the state, I have no felony possession charges and no felony charges at all, just misdemeanors. I now have the money to pay for fines, and fees for a lawyer. Would my lawyer be able to go to court for me and take care of the fines and fees without me needing to go back to missouri? Two, after paying for said fine is it likely that I will be able to get a new license in the state of texas? Im now a healthcare provider for my grandfather, and I kinda need to be able to drive him to appointments and go to the store etc. Also, since I wasn't told I had to take drug tests I have been smoking the legal versions of thc (delta 8 thc and thcv, both derived from hemp) for pain and insomnia, if the court orders me to take a drug test I'm fairly certain I'd fail due to this. I can stop smoking a month before I try and take care of all this, I just need to know how/if I can get my license back. Thanks. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 01:56 PM PDT Located in AZ and living here since November 2020, in March 2021 a new company purchased the entire park, and on March 21st one of the other tenants negligently drove a car into the home hitting me in the process and according to their insurance has caused a total loss of the home. Unfortunately we did not have any sort of renters insurance and the driver had the most minimal policy possible in AZ to legally drive so there is only a maximum payout for $15,000 to be shared among all parties that had property damage. We had several expensive personal items destroyed and as we are not the owners of the mobile home at this point in time we do not have any claim for damage to the mobile home itself, the owners of the park solely have this claim. I have a friend who works as a contractor who repairs homes paid for by insurance companies and believes the place is repairable and not a complete loss, along with 3 other contractors that live here that the management asked to take a quick look at who all agree it is salvageable. Management set us up in a temporary trailer a week after in the park and gave us a month timeline from the date of the accident to get the place repaired and us back home. The temporary mobile home they have housed us in has no hot water, an unusable shower, has no fridge, cannot get a gas line open due to damages from the previous owners, and has possibly dangerous and faulty electrical work done by the previous owners along with generally being in a bad/unsanitary state. Every timeline they have given us for any kind of work or steps being done for our home has either been pushed back or never mentioned again. At first they claimed they were looking to find a company that could place the home back on stilts and stabilized so repairs could begin on the wall and floor that was damaged and said they would have it done within a week of the accident, that has still not happened and they have not said a word about it since. Next they stated that they were going to have some contractors come by and give some quotes on repairing the place, and that has still not happened. After that they claimed the owner of the park was going to come from out of state to look at the place themselves and we have passed the date which they was supposed to be here by a week with no word about it yet. And most recently they claimed that the owner's insurance company (which has a policy for the mobile home) would be coming by to look at the place and they would let us know when they do arrive, and so far no word on that. My fiance has works helping distribute vaccines and cannot even come home to a hot shower or even wash her hands properly. Our two dogs aren't able to be cleaned as there is no tub, only the faulty shower. Our mental and physical health have taken a toll on us throughout this entire situation, me having an injury from the accident that I cannot get any further assistance for due to not having any insurance and being unemployed, I normally work from home and cannot even look for a job in that field as I don't have a place to work at and cannot do physical labor due to my injuries. We really just have no idea what to do at this point, we've been here almost two weeks after their timeline of when we were supposed to be home and absolutely nothing has been done for our mobile home and they are still expecting us to pay rent. The on site manager has no experience in their field of work and has told me they were essentially forced to do this job by the owner and has never handled a situation like this. The manager seems to be too busy working on fixing one of the many abandoned/condemned mobile homes at the park to help us out. We're slowly running out of our savings and thankfully have had some donations from friends that have allowed us to continue to pay for food and allowed us to have the rent money we need but this is not sustainable and we cannot afford this for much longer. TL;DR my home was driven into and heavily damaged, new landlord has repeatedly lied to us and put-off repairing the home while we are paying full price for our home and living in poor conditions and I have no idea what to do [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 02 May 2021 11:40 AM PDT In December 2018 my Grandmother was getting very sick and moved in with my brother and put him as power of attorney. She had about 80k in her bank account at that time. She passed away in march of 2019 and her account had less than 15k at the time of death. (she was on medic aid and the nurse that came daily was already 100% paid for.) I confronted my brother and he said he used most of the money to remodel her condo so that he could sell it for more money. (that's a whole different story.) I knew that he was lying but without getting the police or lawyers involved there was no way for me to get the truth out of him. At the time I really trusted him and I did not want him to get in trouble with the law on the off chance that he was lying. Well, his guilt must have hit a breaking point because a week ago he told me that he invested 20k in forex and it was a scam and there supposably is a lawsuit against the scammer. (even though he won't show me any proof of that.) And that is what he is telling me I almost certain there is more that he won't tell me. So I asked him when he will pay me back the 10k since it is only him and I in the will (everything should be split 50/50.) He said he spent all of his inheritance and he doesn't have any money to pay me back. What can I do? Is this criminal? or civil? [link] [comments]  |
| [TN] 16 year old trying to get away from her father Posted: 02 May 2021 08:47 AM PDT On the 1st of May 2021 my Uncle attacked my 16 year old cousin, his daughter, which led her to harm. The police were called, but nothing really happened. The police didn't talk to anyone who witnessed what happened, and only talked to my Uncle and my cousin. They talked about the issues that they were having and my cousin told the police that this was not the first time something like that has happened and that she has photos on her phone (which are also backed up through her email) where he has left bruises on her before and that there is a hole in their wall at their home where he has pushed her into it before. The police officer said that she would have hit her child too if they acted the way my cousin did to her dad. They ended up telling me to keep my cousin until my mom got off work and the next day (May 3rd 2020) for my cousin to be at my grandmother's at 11am so her and my Uncle could 'leave'. When my cousin asked where would she be going the cop told her she doesn't know and left. My grandmother called my mom this morning (May 3rd) at around 8 and said my cousin needed to get ready and that her and my uncle are leaving at 9 or 9:30 am. My cousin really didn't want to go back with her dad, but she really has no choice since he is her only parent really because her mom lost custody of her when she was 5 and even now is not fit to be a parent. My uncle also made it clear that he intends to take all electronics from her, which in a parental way isn't necessarily bad as I can understand because of behaviors, but this leaves her without any way to communicate with anyone because they do not have a landline or house phone where they live and he intends to keep her out of school on Monday the 4th of May because he has a doctor's appointment in Nashville and he doesn't let her use his phone. They both have their issues, he refuses to get help for them or denies help, and I do not believe that they should live together. If anything ever happened my mom would be more than willing to take her in. I can not because I am only 21. I am worried about the safety of my cousin from her dad and from herself as she has suicidal thoughts because she feels trapped in her situation and I just want to know if there is anything I can do to get her help. I will explain the situation that happened in detail next. And I know my writing is a bit all over the place, I am just really overwhelmed and scared for her safety because they live in East Tennessee and all of her family live here in West Tennessee. On May 1st my cousin had stayed the previous night at my house because they were visiting from East TN and we planned to do a photoshoot for her. I was told to have her back at my grandmother's by lunch on May 1st. My fiancee ran out of gas and was on the side of the road around 11 and my cousin took it upon herself to message my uncle telling him the situation and that she thinks we might be late. I know he gets set off very easily so I told her she shouldn't have done that and I called him to tell him that I still intended to have her home before 1200. Apparently the message had not sent to him yet because as soon as I told him she sent that message and that I still intended to have her back before 1200 and that we were actually on our way [1100] he began yelling at me over the phone threatening me if she wasn't back there by 1200 and that he didn't receive a text from her. He also began accusing me of drinking or being high because he thought that I was slurring when I was actually stuttering due to anxiety about the situation. I was very upset that my uncle would accuse me of it and I told my cousin that he had accused me of being under the influence with her. She said that she wanted to chew him out for it. I know she shouldn't be talking to her dad aggressively like that so I told her not to and that it doesn't concern her and to leave the situation alone. Well. She ended up calling him when I was at the gas station getting gas for my car and filling up gas cans for my fiancee and she apparently started cussing at him for accusing me of stuff. He hung up because obviously a child should not be talking to their parent like that. She began texting him cussing at him for it and when I got into the car and found out I told her she needed to quit it. When we pulled into my grandmother's driveway my uncle reached through my open window and grabbed her phone from her hand and started yelling at her. She called him a d!ck (which I told her to stop as soon as she said it). I was outside of my car because I was going to help her get her stuff out and he reached through the window to try to smack her. She covered her face so he pulled her arm down and she hit his arms to try to get her away from him. It is Tennessee so slapping a child for being disrespectful is not uncommon. He got mad that she hit his arms for trying to hit her. He went onto the porch and was screaming at her telling her that she wasn't coming home with him, telling her she didn't live with him anymore, that she needed to call her mom (who has no custody and should not care for a child) because he wasnt keeping her anymore, and that she needed to leave. Since she was still sitting in my car and he was yelling at her telling her to get lost, I calmly asked what I needed to do with her to confirm that it was okay to leave with her if that is really what he wanted. He began screaming at me for her cussing at him because he thought that I told her to. I said "I did not tell her to message you. Right now I need to know what I need to do with her". He continued to scream at me for her cussing at him so I just asked what I needed to do with her. Well while he continued to scream at me, my grandmother decided to go to the door that my cousin was on. My cousin told my grandmother to get away from her because my grandmother and my cousin have issues as well. That triggered my uncle and he ran from the porched, jerked my car door open, grabbed her by her leg and began dragging her out of my car. As soon as this happened I called the police because pulled her out of the car really hard onto gravel and she nearly hit her head on the bottom of the vehicles doorway and since it is an SUV it wasn't a quick fall to the ground. She hit her back and head on the ground pretty hard. She began screaming at him to get away and let her go. He began to drag her through the gravel towards the yard. Since I had to call the police when I looked back she had gotten up and he bent his body practically at a 90 degree angle and shoved her back (I think she was trying to get away) as hard as he could towards my 13 year old brother. This knocked her back onto the ground. My brother and my grandmother got in between my cousin and Uncle and my cousin ran towards me. I was explaining what was happening to the 911 operator. They asked if my cousin was hurt so I checked with my cousin and she said she didn't think so. The operator could hear her crying and asked who was crying. I confirmed it was my cousin. My uncle began yelling at me because I called the police and the operator asked who that was and I confirmed. I kept my cousin and uncle away from each other by pointing to indicate for him to stay away from me and I had my cousin sit in the grass a few feet away from me. Then once the cops got there it was as I had said previously. My cousin has begged for her dad to put them both in therapy so they can get better because she does recognize that they both are problematic for each other. They ended up getting a therapist but he didn't think that the therapist knew what they were talking about and didn't like her. The therapist did contact dcs because this was after the incident where he left bruises on her and threw her into a wall. After DCS came by he stopped going to that therapist with my cousin and wouldn't let my cousin go by herself. My cousin has since begged her dad to find a new therapist for them to go to, but he refuses. Other than these situations there are many more reasons why they should not live together. My uncle has many mental health issues and there have been many times that he would leave her home alone and run off telling my grand mother that he was thinking of killing himself. Situatuons such as that has happened many times over the years. He even left her alone when she was 9 in their apartment they had in Florida. My cousin was left alone for hours when she went to use a neighbors phone because she didn't have one of her own. All family lived in West Tennessee at that time too and they did not know anyone in Florida. She stayed with the neighbor over night and my grandmother finally got ahold of my uncle at Midnight. He said he wanted to kill himself then hung up and didn't contact anyone until 4am when he messaged my grandmother saying he was going home. At the time no one contacted the police or dcs or cops about the situation. [link] [comments]  |
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