- Sister-in-law filing complaint against school after my brother (a teacher there) committed suicide and the principal gave us (my parents) the notes, letters, flowers and gifts left for him by students.
- (NC) The value of father's estate is less than the cost of filing a small estate application
- Company I rent from says I owe $2,795 all because they didn't cash my first months rent
- What will happen after I report a man who sexually abused me as a child a few years ago? What is the process like?
- Left old employer, they are refusing to pay me earned commissions.
- Police asked me in for a few questions and to sign a document to close a case.
- My dad’s(38M) girlfriend(34F) might be getting kicked out of her X-Ray tech program because of things her supervisor made her do.
- My Employer is forcing me to forfeit bought vacation time and citing IRS regulations I can’t find.
- My cousins are trying to prevent me from staying in my home while my dad is in the hospital.
- Divorce - Is moving best for the kids?
- Friends hit by car while walking, police lied (badly) in report. Any recourse against police? (NYC)
- Arrested with weed in the car, police claim they will be lenient as a result of cooperation (NJ)
- My mom’s lawyer resigned in the middle of a bankruptcy case, after being paid up front, anything she can do? [TX]
- Please Help. Physically and mentally abusive mother kicked out her underage daughter after punching her and screaming in her face for no reason...
- Brother Being Blackmailed to Stay in Marriage By Wife
- Apartment complex suddenly stopped paying utilities and claims they're our responsibility (Washington, DC, USA)
- Spouse's parents attempting to take large life insurance policy on wife and her sister, with third party beneficiary
- Mechanic botched a repair, hood flew up, and now my truck is in much worse shape than when I brought it in
- My parents want me to adopt my sisters child just so I can give the child to them.
- Worried about new landlord charging “business processing fees” every month
- [CA] Can a loan be discharged due to mania and same day psych-hold?
- I own two leased trucks, but gave one to my best friend under the agreement he makes monthly payments to me. He’s 1700 dollars behind on payments. We have a signed contract that I wrote up.. how well would that hold up if I take legal action?
- Friend on probation for DUI had court order for his probation officer to not show up at his work and verify employment via paystubs... PO showed up, friend lost his year end bonus.
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:55 AM PST (I'm currently experiencing a great deal of grief, anger, and a whole slew of other emotions, so apologies in advance if this is long-winded or overly-emotional. Attempting to keep this as concise and matter-of-fact as possible.) Two weeks ago, my brother committed suicide. His wife was not particularly social with my family before this, but has now become outright hostile. My brother was incredibly loved by staff and students alike. My mother and I dropped off a memory book for the school to write in, for his five-year-old son to one day read. My sister-in-law had no part of this, and in fact, had previously expressed very little interest in these matters. (For example, she told us not to give her the condolence cards from the funeral as she didn't care to read them; "just send her the cash" which she texted to my older sister) While dropping off the book, the principal showed us his classroom and let us take home the notes and letters (which had already been collected and gathered up in boxes by the school.) She also offered whatever personal effects he had, which weren't many and most we left; not sure if my SIL would want, like his microwave, etc. Mostly just photos, which we gathered to give to her later that week as well as the notes, letters, stuffed animals, etc. To clarify: we brought them home with the intent to give to her later. I just wanted the chance to photograph them before I had to leave, as I'm pretty sure she'd either never let me see them, or choose not to keep them based on previous examples with funeral cards. When my SIL found out we were given these, she contacted HR to report the principal for giving away what she claims belonged to her. Amongst the items were a few fake poinsettias. As she had implicitly demanded, there were to be "NO flowers" at his funeral, and the few that were brought or delivered were ordered by her to "get them out of my sight." So with this in mind, my mother donated the fake flowers, but kept everything else for all of us to go through. My loving SIL, in turn, accused us of "stealing" them from her (yes, the same woman who banned my parents from allowing flowers at their son's funeral) and as I mentioned, contacted HR to report the principal. She wasn't listed as the school's emergency contact; my parents were the only ones my brother listed. Between that and any next of kin laws, were we in the wrong here? By the way, we had everything at our house, where we also temporarily had her cat per her request, and were obviously planning on giving everything to her when she came for the cat. She's mad about the 10 small pots of fake flowers donated, and that the school would release "her" property to us, even when the letters were addressed to my brother. She has hinted at legal action over these events. Lastly, this is in South Dakota. TLDR; Sister-in-law potentially threatening legal action after my deceased brother's school gave us (his sister and mother) letters, gifts and flowers left outside his classroom by students. Claims we stole from her despite keeping everything for her to look through besides a few fake flower pots. (We donated them as she previously demanded "no flowers in her sight" but is now stating she only meant "fresh cut flowers" and is thus accusing us of "stealing" them.) She was not listed as my brother's emergency contact; my parents were. She is filing complaints with the school over this and potentially pursuing legal action, claiming all items belonged solely to her, and the school had no right to send them home with us. Bear in mind, we were assuming she would come get them from our house, along with her cat. We had no intent to ever keep anything from her. EDIT: Please refrain from commenting on or questioning life insurance policies, or any speculation regarding my SIL's parenting. I appreciate the concern, but they're off-topic to this question, and too personal in nature for Reddit; anonymity or not. [link] [comments]  |
| (NC) The value of father's estate is less than the cost of filing a small estate application Posted: 21 Dec 2018 06:18 AM PST After my father's death in October, we received a surprise check for ~$300 in his name from the country of his birth. He was collecting social security from that country ($89/month) and this is the death benefit from that. We had not filed for a small estate deed since he had put my sister on his bank accounts and that was all there was to deal with (we thought). As we gather the required documents and forms to file, we've found that the total cost is ~$400, exceeding the amount of the check we're trying to deposit/cash. Is there value in continuing to get the deed? Edit: Thank You to everyone for the guidance. I was much better informed when talking to the sister who is handling this (as mentioned in the comments, I am out of state) and now she's admitted that the issue is that she's overwhelmed by trying to handle it all. Even though it's just the one check, and no property, we're going to consult a lawyer and get help filing. The NC Bar referred us to someone who will help. [link] [comments]  |
| Company I rent from says I owe $2,795 all because they didn't cash my first months rent Posted: 20 Dec 2018 11:32 PM PST I moved into an apartment building on November 15th. Rent is $750. I paid I think $386 for rent and $750 security deposit before I even moved in, because they had to wait for the tenants to move out and get the apartment professionally cleaned, so move in date was 15th. Me and the landlord of the building sent my check in to them, this is owned by a company not a private landlord. They never cashed it. When it was past the 15th of November I checked to see and it says we owe it and have numerous late fees. I called them and they said they have it and just haven't cashed it yet and will remove any late fees. By the way my rent is due every 15th and not the 1st of the month. December 1st. I paid my full rent of $750. Was confirmed through on the 3rd. I just checked online to see if it was all good and if all the fees and balances were clear and it says I literally owe them $2,795. What. The. Fuck. Is this not fraud???? I have bank records that I paid everything in full BEFORE it was due. I am so irritated. I left a voicemail to them and my landlady about 30 minutes ago to ask what is going on. I am seriously upset about this. Won't this effect my credit as well? What can I do to get them to never do this again because it is stressing me out. Edit: This is in Wisconsin by the way. Also sorry if this is written horrible, I am very stressed out right now [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 08:07 AM PST Hello everyone. I will be reporting someone who sexually molested me as a child. He was much older man and he did it everyday for months. I would like to what the process will be like. I am in the US. I am aware that after I report him that the police will try to contact him and other witnesses. But what will exactly happen? Will he be found guilty if I have no physical body evidence? What if my witnesses don't want to speak? Will I have to show up in court? How long is the process? And how will the police find his new address? Edit: my state is Florida and it happened 7/8 years ago. [link] [comments]  |
| Left old employer, they are refusing to pay me earned commissions. Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:53 AM PST State of New Jersey. As mentioned, I put my two weeks in and they let me go to my current job. I was still owed a hefty sum in commissions, which they are trying to ignore me to pay. Please let me know how I go about getting recourse for my commissions I am considering sending them a 1099 for that as well as a percentage of a report they generate- which shows the present value of all opportunities in the sales pipeline. [link] [comments]  |
| Police asked me in for a few questions and to sign a document to close a case. Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:54 AM PST A few months ago my identity was mistaken and as a result it caused for an investigation to verify who I was. Police did contact me around the time of that incident and even emphasized i am not in trouble but it was routine procedure. After that they told me the case would be closed and they wont contact me. Now a month later they called me again and told me they need to see me in person just to answer a few questions but needs to be in person. According to google they say I shouldn't go. I cant get a criminal defense lawyer easily. Again they emphasize this is routine and just something they need to do and again they say I am not in trouble. What is the chances I get arrested? Should I refuse to go? Should I believe them? Location is Atlanta PD TL:DR: No crime was commited but I still am asked to go for investigation? EDIT: Backstory in comments. The police did ask for my address and birthdate and i gave it to them but used my work address. UPDATE: Called a attorney, they said there has been no crime commited. But he will help me investigate. He tells me just ignore them for now. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 12:03 AM PST My dad's girlfriend is in an X-Ray tech program where she does 12 Week cycles at different hospitals in Colorado learning how to take X-Rays. She's been at her current hospital for 10 weeks and her supervisor has treated her horribly the entire time. In general her supervisor has been making her cut corners and do illegal things regarding HIPPA. For example: because she is a student X-Ray tech she isn't allowed to email out the X-Rays herself OR just take them herself. A leading X-Ray tech has to watch her and the leading X-Ray tech has to be the one to email them to ensure they get sent to the correct place. However, her supervisor has been having her send them out herself without any supervision. My dad's girlfriend was very uncomfortable with this and she reported her supervisors behavior to her dean at school (the school is where her program is delegated). The day after she made her complaint she was Called into the deans office to find that her supervisor had sent in a very long letter about all of the code violations that she has committed. The dean told her that she was at risk of getting kicked out of the program. However all of the code violations she is in trouble for are things her supervisor told her to do, and told her were okay. Also, the reason that all of this started was because my dad's girlfriend was specifically uncomfortable with her supervisor asking her to do things the wrong way, and generally treating her very poorly. We feel as though this is a major abuse of power, and we need your help. My question is: Is this a legal issue? If so what can be done about this legally? Is there anything we can do to ensure she doesn't lose her spot in the program? [link] [comments]  |
| My Employer is forcing me to forfeit bought vacation time and citing IRS regulations I can’t find. Posted: 21 Dec 2018 08:04 AM PST UPDATE: I'm in Pennsylvania - sorry I forgot to include it in the title! SECOND UPDATE: This is resolved. I am basically SOL. 😢 Thank you all for your quick help and responses! In 2018 my employer allowed non-union employees to purchase a week of vacation. I took them up on the offer and paid a small portion of my salary in my bi-weekly paychecks for it all year. There has also been a vacation carry-over policy in place for decades that allows you to carry over up to 5 vacation days into the next year. So, my total PTO including the bought week for 2018 was 120 hours. I used approximately 80 and was planning on using the vacation carry-over policy to carry over the 5 remaining days. I received a notification from the HR department this morning saying those 5 remaining days must either be used or forfeited. I asked for clarification from HR asking why I couldn't carry over the days and was told bought vacation is considered the last time used. So to them the two weeks of time off I already took this year was my standard PTO and the remaining 40 hours is what I bought. I've scoured our internal employment policies and have been unable to find anything where they make this clear. The only thing I can find says: "If an employee buys an additional (1) week (40 hours) of vacation and does not use it within the year for which it was purchased, he or she may sell back all or a portion of the purchased week (in hours) at the end of that year during the annual Revocation Period." So I asked for further clarification from HR and they said it is an IRS policy that any bought vacation is considered the last time off used. I can't find a whisper of any vacation time IRS regulation. They are also saying because I missed the revocation period (because I thought I was carrying the time over!) they won't allow me to sell my time back either. Due to coverage restrictions, I can't take next week off, so I am out not only the vacation time but the extra money I spent to buy the week in the first place. I don't doubt that there is some IRS policy somewhere; but do I have any recourse because it is not fully explained in the Corporate Policy? Are they telling the truth that there is an IRS regulation about purchased time off? [link] [comments]  |
| My cousins are trying to prevent me from staying in my home while my dad is in the hospital. Posted: 21 Dec 2018 09:37 AM PST This is long, so I apologize beforehand. I'm on an alt account. My dad had open heart surgery we'd been planning for months, following a heart attack and OD in May. In the days leading up to the surgery, dad and I had several discussions. He wanted me to come up to visit a week after his surgery and stay for a while. He had paid my third cousin (I think? She's distant and I haven't seen her in ~15 years) Katherine a substantial amount of money to help care for him as he recovered from home. I live in Texas and run an animal-related business, so dad didn't want to take me from that to care for him. Friday, December 7, he had his surgery. It took hours longer than planned and he immediately began having complications. Friday night around 6 pm he got out of surgery. Saturday 12/8 he was moved to an ICU for cardiac patients. Katherine was being super reluctant to give me updates regarding his health- I know now that it was because he developed pneumonia and a lung infection and his left lung collapsed. She told me he was fine, with no infection. In the days that followed, I became increasingly worried about my dad, in large part because I was getting vague answers about his health and sensed something was wrong. The nurses in charge of his care had been instructed by my first cousin, Carlos, and his father (my uncle) Bill not to tell me anything about his health. By begging and pleading with the nurses I eventually got them to give me more complete information about my dad's health, and learned he was not doing as well as my family had led me to believe. It came to a head Saturday 12/15, the day after I was supposed to have arrived (the original plan was that dad would be healthy enough by then to be home) when I finally was able to talk to Carlos and he told me my dad didn't want me at our house or to come see him. I also learned that one of Dad's on and off friends, Rob, had been staying at my dad's home and driving his vehicles. I know my dad didn't want Rob at his home. At that point my dad has been extubated but was very delirious and not making sense, and none of my family would let me talk to him. I was panicking in Texas and decided to fly back home to Maryland to see him despite what the rest of my family wanted. When I got to the hospital, in Washington DC, I learned that it was more serious than I'd been told. His left lung had collapsed, he had pneumonia, had developed afib, and had a lung infection. Since I've been here, no one has been to visit him except me. At the same time he began improving. He's having hours-long periods of time when he's aware of his surroundings, who he is, etc and is acting like himself. He'll sleep when I'm there at night and I can get him to eat, so the feeding tube and restraints tying him to the bed have been removed. He asked me Tuesday-Thursday during his lucid periods to go check on his valuables and vehicles at his home, and told me I could stay at his home, which has been listed as my address on my license since I got it. As of Monday 12/17, his friend Rob staying at his house left the state, my third cousin Katherine left to go back to her apartment, and I haven't heard or seen my cousin Carlos or Uncle Bill. I've been texting updates to my cousin. I went to the house yesterday 12/20 and discovered his briefcase (with $20,000+ in valuables and cash) as well as all his keys to homes and vehicles are gone. Rob initially lied about where those things were but then admitted he had them. He also told me, per my cousin, I wasn't to be in the house and they had "video evidence" of me stealing things and the cops were on their way. They never materialized so I made a police report for theft on my own, and to check with them to see if it was possible I was trespassing in my own home. They told me I was legally allowed to be in my home as my license listed it as my primary address, but that if Carlos was my father's power of attorney they couldn't file a theft report as Carlos was legally my father at this point in time. Carlos and Bill have instructed hospital staff not to share any documents with me, will not return my texts, and I'm scared that something has been stolen by Rob or Katherine and that I'll be blamed. I was also told per the nurses they are planning to move him to a private hospital and I'm scared they won't allow me to see him. My dad and I have always been close and he wouldn't want me to be treated like this, and he absolutely wouldn't want his estate handled like this while he's in the hospital. His vehicles are his pride and joy and Rob is mostly his drug buddy. There's no way he wants him using them. I have called two family law attorneys in the county but because it's Christmas I'm going to have a hard time talking to them. What are my options? How do I protect my dad and his wishes? Can they legally prevent me from seeing my own father? Is there a way for me to get power of attorney so dad can come home and recover like was initially planned? I know he'd rather hire home nurses and have me or Katherine with him 24/7. He's lived here his whole life and it'll truly help him recover better. It seems like everyone except me is only interested in his estate, as I'm the only person who's been with him this week and none of them have been asking for an update (I've been providing them anyway.) My Uncle Bill hasn't been to see him once, and they all live ~15 minutes from the hospital. Thank you for reading. TLDR family and friends are trying to prevent me from seeing my dad or staying at my family home. He didn't authorize these decisions but did sign over power of attorney. How do I prevent family from keeping me from my father, abd ideally, how do I supervise their power of attorney so I can ascertain my dad is receiving the best care possible? [link] [comments]  |
| Divorce - Is moving best for the kids? Posted: 21 Dec 2018 05:41 AM PST I'll try to stick to the facts. My STBXW and I have three kids. They are 7, 5, and 3. Two years ago she changed career paths and became a full time nursing student. She is 30 and I am 31. She worked part time here and there to help but primarily my income paid the bills. June 30th of 2018 I discovered she had multiple affairs with some college kids. She continued to have new affairs after discovery. She moved out August 1st. I've been taking the kids to school and putting them to bed about 98 percent of the time. Taking care of the house as well as taking work off when kids are sick. She currently has a boyfriend and was unwilling to end that relationship. She needs to find a job in her new career and there will not be an option for that from anywhere less than an hour away. We consulted with a divorce mediator but my fear is that we fundamentally disagree on what is best for the kids. She thinks I should move with the kids to wherever she gets a job. However, my logic tells me the kids should stay in the home, keep existing friends, and school with the goal of the most stability. That puts her in a bind because she needs a job and is certainly going to need to move. I feel this situation escalating and I'm scared because I've been the primary caregiver and really don't think moving makes sense for any of us except for her. This has been the theme of our relationship. I had hopes of divorcing on agreeable terms while knowing the kids are the major topic. She somewhat threatened today that it might not be up to me to decide whether the kids move or stay. She abandoned us by leaving the house and continued relationships with others in public. She's super smart but has cluster B personality disorders. Legally should I be doing something more? Should I file an at fault divorce for South Dakota instead of no fault mediation? It feels like I'm not prepared for what is to come. I have not spoken to a lawyer yet as we literally are getting by financially. Should I move for the kids to be around both parents? My gut says no, but how would a judge see it? Thanks in advance. [link] [comments]  |
| Friends hit by car while walking, police lied (badly) in report. Any recourse against police? (NYC) Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:32 AM PST Two of my friends, large male (LM) and small female (SF) were walking when a car went through a stop sign and hit them in the cross walk on the far side. Thankfully LM was the one who sustained the direct hit, though they both ended up on the ground. LM is 6'4, muscular and biracial, and took quite a hit. If SF had been hit, she thinks she's be dead. The car decelerated just at the very last minute or it would have literally run them over. This was in East Bushwick, drivers were driving some sort of clunker. Ambulance called, paramedics said his vitals were all over the place, shaking so he couldn't hold water, and his wrist is sprained. Two unassociated witnesses stuck around for 20 minutes and gave statements because they saw what happened and were concerned/outraged. Three days later his whole body is still in lots of pain. Police report gets shared today, police basically made it sound like my friends were trying to pull in insurance scam. "Male threw his hands in front of the car." No action taken against the drivers. My friends are NOT looking for any money, the driver/s don't look like they have any anyway. But they are INCREDIBLY pissed about this report. The driver legit could have killed someone, and they are facing no consequences because of the police. It's horrible. Thankfully SF is an attorney! But this is way outside of anything she (or anyone she knows) deals with. They want the official account changed, and hopefully the driver charged with negligence or similar. She has all the contact info for the paramedics and witnesses. So she's going to start researching options today, but I was wondering if anyone could give her some resources to get started. NY has so many amazing groups, and her problem is very specific. Thanks for any leads! [link] [comments]  |
| Arrested with weed in the car, police claim they will be lenient as a result of cooperation (NJ) Posted: 21 Dec 2018 06:08 AM PST Happened very recently to a friend of mine: "I got pulled over because apparently my brake lights don't work. I had smoked in the car hours earlier and he smelled it. Asked to search my car, I willingly let him. He found two bowls, my grinder, and a roach in my bag, which I told him he would. Because he found it, I had to be arrested and booked; I was there for maybe an hour. And because I was so polite and cooperative he gave me the lowest charge he could. I have to go to court but he said I'll prob get probation and I just have to pay a ticket for the brake lights." Should my friend take the police's word for this, or should they get ahead of this by hiring a lawyer? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 09:52 AM PST So my mom filed for bankruptcy about 3 months ago, and is in the middle of the case, the court hasn't even finalized the payment plan. She paid 25k up front, the lawyer has accompanied her to like 3 court appearances, and has only been communicating via email. Today the lawyer resigned, after yesterday getting notice that they have another hearing on the Jan 2nd, to which they needed to respond to by the 27th (the lawyer did not respond before resigning). Is there anything my mom can do legally? The lawyer took the money up front and then without asking for more or giving any reason she resigned from the case, again via email. UPDATE: Ok so I got more info, it's a chapter 11, I got the numbers mixed up. It was 25k because a failed business (that mom is trying to sell, and if she does she'd have enough to pay everyone back). So the lawyers clerk messed up two of the previously submitted court documents and made a typo on them, so they had to be refiled. So my mom told her to make sure the clerk didn't mess up these forms, and the lawyer got all pissy and said are you accusing my clerk of intentionally messing up your forms? I've had enough of this, I'm resigning. All over email So clearly she hasn't resigned officially yet, my mom sent back no, the clerk made a typo that made us have to refile two documents and I don't want that to happen again. The lawyer has not responded yet. My mom is pissed because the lady refused to talk on the phone, and won't file their response to the upcoming court date until the last day possible (the 27th). [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 08:01 AM PST (oklahoma) My friend (F) (17) is currently a junior, dad died when she was 8 and her mother is beyond a physcopath... My friend has attempted suicide because of her mothers abuse at least 3 or 4 times in the past 6 months and has been cutting more than in could tell you... Her mother will randomly walk in at 3am and start screaming at her to do something for her, her mother will slap her for no reason if she feels like it, her mother GROUNDED HER FROM GOING TO SCHOOL FOR A WEEK because she had felt that my frienf wasnt doing good enough to be in school and needed to catch up.... during that week she took her phone away and i know things went down but my friend wont tell me anything that her mom did to her while under complete house arrest.... but i know she came out with new cuts and scars.... And yesterday. The problem still going on... im drawing the line i really want to do something to help her, but need your advice to do it. Yesterday was the last day of school and finals... my friend had been stressing staying up late all week about grades and honestly, she didnt do too well on many of her tests... she was exhausted and went home and told her mom not to bother her she was going to sleep and she went and crashed... 4 times apparently her mother barged into her room screaming at her she was worthless (and she and i dont know why, she hasnt even heard of the grades yet) and a lot of other horrible things to tell your own kid... Then her mother says she quit her joh today, and then opens up saying that she had gotten in a fight with my friends grandparents... her mother goes onto FORCING HER to tell her "her opinion" on it all... my friend didnt want to answer because she couldn't understand what was going on truly and she asked her mother to explain it again because she was tired... her mother slapped her when she asked that. demanded a response... 3 times. Eventually she said, "we're already in financial instability I personally don't think quitting your job was a good idea until you found another one..." Her mother apparently blankly stared at her until out of nowhere she punched my friend and started screaming at her "GET OUT OF MY HOUSE AND DONT COME BACK UNTIL YOU THINK OF WHAT YOUVE SAID AND HAVE A APOLOGY FOR ME, GET EVERYTHING YOU OWN AND GET THE FUCK OUT NOW"... She took her car left and called me about it crying, i told her all she should do for now was go to her friends house and figure things out from there... And here i am asking you to please help her, what can she do? Honestly she needs to get away from her abusive mother... but how legally?... TL:DR - friend last night beaten by (very) abusive mother, screamed at over nothing because she wouldnt tell her what my friend said, after punching her screams at her to "get everything and leave and dont come back"... Edit 10:03am Friday- my friend says her mother called her last night at 10pm screaming at her to get home, when she did she yelled at her more saying its "all her fault" and she "shouldnt have been out so late"... [link] [comments]  |
| Brother Being Blackmailed to Stay in Marriage By Wife Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:57 AM PST This is in Wisconsin. I will try to describe this situation as best as I can, but please forgive me if it is hard to follow: My brother and his wife got married a few years ago. Since then, they have had a relatively toxic relationship, but nothing so bad as to think it was anything beyond just frequent arguing. They were still relatively happy. Some background info: my brother has a bit of a history with the law. Through many arguments, neighbors have called the cops and the cops always choose to pick on my brother because of his history. He refuses to press charges on his wife, so the cops always take him away any time there's a domestic disturbance or the cops are called because they are arguing. Both him and his wife have been abusers in this situation (she has chased him with razor blades, etc... and the damage is noticeable in their house). Fast forward to now, my brother is finally ready to move on with his life to try and seek happiness and escape this abusive cycle. He tried leaving his wife last week, so she found his marijuana concentrate and called the cops to turn him in. This isn't the first time she has done this to control him. Now I am finding she is creating fake videos saying she's getting beaten by him, getting her mom to lie with her, and also trying to get her kids to lie. All my brother wants is out, but he is worried she will have him arrested again and he has no way to leave her because the cops seem to believe her any time she calls. If he leaves, she calls and he always gets arrested, even if nothing happened except them arguing. She is continually making up stories and trying to manipulate the situation to her side. My question is... What can my brother do to protect himself in this situation and get out without the blackmail working against him and getting him arrested or put in prison? This relationship is toxic and I can see just how scared my brother is. His freedom is literally dangling in her hands and he feels he is forced to be with her just to prevent himself being put away. I need to find an out for him. He has recently been attempting to collect evidence to protect himself, but he is still scared the evidence won't stop his arrest because of how things have turn out so far. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Sorry if I missed anything or any of this is confusing. TL;DR Brother's wife is blackmailing him to stay in the marriage or she will throw him in jail. The cops have believed her and been on her side throughout, so he has no reason to disbelieve her. What options does he have to get out and protect himself? He wants out, but is scared for his freedom. EDIT: A word [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 07:36 AM PST So I moved into my apartment complex in June, with a friend from college who had been living there with another girl for a year already. On Wednesday, an envelope was left on my door from the leasing office with a past due electric bill for 226 dollars. Yesterday, I asked the leasing agent what it was about and she said we've always been responsible for utilities. Thinking my roommate screwed up I asked her about it, and she said neither she nor the previous roommate ever paid utilities, she double checked. So I called the electric company and asked them who had been paying previously- the apartment complex had been paying the bill for the entire time my roommate had been living there, and stopped in September. At this point, I emailed the leasing office as I was at work asking for a copy of the lease, as the copy my roommate and I had was on paper at home. They emailed me back and said we never signed the lease, I only signed a roommate addendum. I went home and checked the lease, and sure enough the one we have is the lease starting June 2017, which states we are not responsible for utilities, but it was signed by my roommate and her previous roommate, with only the addendum signed by me. They are asking us to come sign a lease, which I am assuming will start including the cost of utilities. Does the roommate addendum being signed mean that its added onto the previous lease and therefore those are the terms we abide by? Is there any way we can avoid having to pay the past due utilities since clearly they have changed their policy without notifying us? My roommate is already out of town for the Holidays and at this point I'm just trying to figure out what to do. Washington, D.C. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 20 Dec 2018 10:28 PM PST (Location: Southern California) Hello, Thank you in advance for any suggestions, I made a new account for obvious reasons. I'll try to be brief, but the situation is somewhat convoluted... My wife's parents have been nagging my wife to fill out paperwork regarding life insurance, stating that her sister is the the beneficiary on her policy and she would be the beneficiary on her sister's policy. My mother-in-law does not work and my father-in-law has been on a medical leave, and is due to return to work in a couple days. He is concerned he will not make it to full retirement age and therefore will not collect his full retirement, something my mother-in-law is extremely fixated on. There have been increasing periods of erratic behavior from both of them over the past few months, and the life insurance policy pestering has increased dramatically over the last week, with my father-in-law requesting to meet with my wife for lunch in order to sign paperwork for the life insurance (supposedly $100,000 to go to her sister should something happen). At lunch, he insisted she just sign it and there was no need to read it, and also asked if he could make a copy of her driver's license. My wife did of course read it, and the beneficiary was a 3rd party believed to be my father-in-law's mistress, and the policy was for $500,000. When confronted by my wife, my father-in-law pleaded with my wife not to tell her mother. At the same time, my mother-in-law claims she has a policy in place for my wife should something happen to my sister-in-law, however she is unable to produce paperwork of any kind. From the start this obsessing over taking out life insurance on one's children has always seemed odd to me, but the way they have increased their requests to the point of demanding signatures without reading contracts, and having a possible mistress listed as the beneficiary is extremely concerning. Other concerning factors, my father-in-law feels he may be unfit to return to work in a couple days. My mother-in-law is obsessed and paranoid with getting as much money as possible, and recently withdrew close to 100k from a checking account in cash for fear the banking system is on the verge of collapse. I don't see them attempting some kind of double-homicide life insurance scam and expect to get away with it, but I also do not understand their motives and often strange and erratic behavior. My wife is just as perplexed as I am, and her parents have complicated past histories and I have never trusted their motives. Even if her parents are harmless, if this 3rd party believes there's a 500k bounty on my wife I do not know if she would believe it's easy money and if so what she is capable of. So given all that... Generally, what sort of legal course should we pursue? We believe the policy is with MetLife, so would it be best to start by contacting them? Is there a way to file something with an attorney putting it on record that should any death occur, we have good reason to suspect foul play and make her parents aware of such a legal filing? Any suggestions would be appreciated, Thank you TL;DR In-laws fixated on taking out large life insurance policy on wife and her sibling, will not show paperwork, demanding with signatures for paperwork related to life insurance, and beneficiary is father-in-law's mistress. Stranger than fiction... *Edited to add location [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 02:42 AM PST [Sacramento, California] Sorry in advance if this turns into a mouthful - I'll do my best to be brief. In preparation for a trip this weekend, I wanted to get some maintenance done on my old truck. It quickly turned into a fiasco. After doing some minor work myself, I brought it to a small shop for new spark plugs (difficult to replace on this model). After looking at the engine, he recommended some other minor work. I agreed, and we settled on a price of $275 for labor. I bought the parts. Without getting into too much detail, the work quickly escalated, and the final price ended up close to $1000. Fine. It's an old truck, and I was okay with the hefty price tag if it meant the truck would be solid afterward (I'd like to note that I tinker and have a fair understanding of cars. I don't really think I was being "had"). The problems started after I picked up the truck and noticed it was running really poorly. I turned around and brought it back to the shop after driving a few blocks. The mechanic was apologetic and asked to take it for a test drive while I rode as passenger. A couple blocks into the drive, BAM, the hood flies up and hits the windshield. Fast forward a few minutes and we're back at the shop with him tinkering on the engine. He eventually figures out that a fuel injector was loose (or something), and the engine began to run well again. It was late, and his wife was waiting for him to go. I wanted to get home, so he wired the hood shut, and I left with the promise that he will be fixing the hood situation. As of now, the check engine light is back on, and I'm not at all confident in the repairs overall. I'm not sure I want him working on my vehicle anymore, and I'm thinking whatever work he does to fix the hood damage will be shoddy. I'd like for him to refund his labor cost for the initial repair and to pay for a specialist to fix the hood damage. I plan to go speak with him tomorrow and am wondering what my options are assuming I meet resistance. I've already rented a car for the trip this weekend, as I don't feel safe driving the truck as it is. [link] [comments]  |
| My parents want me to adopt my sisters child just so I can give the child to them. Posted: 21 Dec 2018 10:55 AM PST I don't want to be legally responsible for this kid, and the reason they want to force me to do it is because they both drink and smoke heavily and think they wont pass a drug test or something. How bad would it be if I did get the kid and just gave it to them? I already don't want to do it but I'm not in a good financial state and can't really survive without my dads help currently. [link] [comments]  |
| Worried about new landlord charging “business processing fees” every month Posted: 21 Dec 2018 09:31 AM PST Hello everyone, I'm not sure if this is being overly paranoid, or perhaps a legitimate legal concern. My boyfriend and I found someone renting a room on craigslist. He said the room would be $1000 a month, but "since we are two people it would be 1100". We said that seems fine. Now that we are approved he said he will be only accepting paypal as monthly rent payments, and that he will be tacking on a "4% paypal business transaction fee" every month. We asked if he would accept any other form of payment and he said no. I am just curious if this all seems legitimate, or if there's something we can say to avoid an extra payment every month. He says "it wouldnt be fair for him to eat the cost, and would help him repair the home quicker" he also lives in the house and is constantly renovating it. Please let me know any advice at all would be extremely appreciated. [link] [comments]  |
| [CA] Can a loan be discharged due to mania and same day psych-hold? Posted: 21 Dec 2018 01:09 PM PST My adult Bi-Polar brother signed up for a high interest loan online yesterday with Rise while experiencing mania. The same day he was placed on a 5150 hold. Thankfully he's admitted and will now get treatment. He was placed on a 5150 hold because he's not of sound mind, and is a danger to himself and others. To me this means he's not in the right mind to make financial decisions, though I don't know if any of that matters in a legal sense. Is there any legal basis to have a loan invalided based on mania and a same day psych commitment? Any help would be appreciated, even if the answer is just that this is yet another mess he created while manic that he must clean up later. Thank you! [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 02:07 PM PST Hopefully I can make this somewhat long story short for you guys. I bought a 2010 Silverado two years ago from a dealership for 16k. The engine went out after 3 months of owning it. I was told that it'd be a 5k repair job so instead I put it into my family mechanic. He held on to that truck for 10 months while he tried finding a used motor for me for a good price. During this time frame, I went and bought a 2014 Silverado. Much better and more reliable, with warranties and everything. My monthly payment for the 2010 Chevy was 240 a month. My monthly payment for this 2014 Chevy is 400 a month. Luckily I can afford to make both payments right now as well as insurance for both. But my (former) best friend fell in love with my 2010 Chevy. He has terrible credit but was very confident he could improve it and get the truck legally put into his name in a 3 month time frame. I gave him that truck in December of 2017. I told him to make payments of 340 a month to me, and work on improving his credit. The truck is still in my name and insurance too. (I'm well aware of the risk I'm taking by doing this, no need to tell me) we have a written agreement I wrote out and he signed stating he is responsible for all damages to the vehicle, that any injuries that happens while he is driving is his responsibility and he would pay for any damages. Also I wrote that I have the power to take the truck away at any moment if he falls behind and he is to make up for the late payments if this happens. We both signed it and I made copies of it. Well now it's December 2018. He's 1700 dollars behind. He never answers his phone. He doesn't reply to my texts. When I visit him he makes up excuses. I want to just take the truck back and try to sell it, but I don't know how to do it since it's still leased by the bank. I don't know what to do. He's made me so upset and I should have known better. Best friends for 20 years and he's doing me dirty [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 21 Dec 2018 11:27 AM PST ...so this is legit for a friend of mine on probation for DUI, not myself. EDIT FOR LOCATION We are in Florida. He got a DUI in January, got convicted for it and was sentence to a year of probation. His job is really strict about arrests and while he was under no obligation to tell them per his employment agreement, he knew that the PO coming in would cause an issue. The judge ordered his probation to be devoid of any employment visits and that pay stubs would be allowable to verify employment. He makes a lot of money. His yearly bonus is in the low-mid six figures, so you can see where he would want to make sure that they didn't become aware. He hasn't missed one appointment, finished his community service in record time, made it to every drug and alcohol test, never popped positive for anything and is meant to get off his probation sometime in January. Well yesterday he calls me to let me know that his PO came to his work to verify his employment... this did not sit well with HR. Long story short. They revoked his bonus, a sizable one and he's on probation at work now and if anything remotely happens badly, including him coming in late to work once, he will lose his job. QUESTION: Does he have any recourse against the probation company for damages since he can show, specifically, that he lost money based on the court order allowing him paystub verification rather than in person? And if so, what type of lawyer would he be looking for? Someone that deals in Administrative law? Thanks guys. [link] [comments]  |
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