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    Legal Advice Parents stole my mail-in ballot and forged it (twice), confirmed received by the county clerk. How do I report this properly?


    Parents stole my mail-in ballot and forged it (twice), confirmed received by the county clerk. How do I report this properly?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 06:29 AM PST

    UPDATE: My county board of elections is allowing me to receive a new ballot in-person later today that I can submit right then and there. I am re-enfranchised, but the aftermath of the theft is still something I'm unsure about.

    Hi. It was suggested to me that I ask this question on this subreddit to get more in-depth responses about both the how-to and the likely aftermath.

    (Originally posted here: https://old.reddit.com/r/newjersey/comments/jm3w0s/parents_stole_my_mailin_ballot_and_forged_it/)

    I'm an NJ resident who has had their mail-in ballot stolen and forged, sent in, nullified, re-mailed to me, stolen *again* and forged *again*. I'm tied up trying to get this solved with my local elections clerk so that I don't have to vote provisionally. I'm also fed up, and want to report this properly. Unfortunately, this is the result of parents who believe their children's votes are "bonus" votes that they can just cast on behalf of them. I am 27, fully financially independent and no-contact, and do not live with them; they do not live at the address it was forged and sent from.

    I have a recorded confession provided by an extended family member of both of them conspiring to forge my ballot. (NJ is a one-party consent state.)

    How do I report this properly so that the full extent of the law can be executed? Is it possible for me to wait a little bit before reporting so that I can create some distance (moving soon to another state), or should I report immediately? What should I expect if and when they are charged, and what will they be charged with?

    So far, I have been recommended to call the USPS investigations(?) and my state AG. I'm not sure if this is 100% correct, but I'll be attempting both. Any other advice would be great!

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    I threw away my coworker's rotten food that was stored in the shared fridge, but now I'm being accused of theft and destruction of property.

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 05:16 AM PST

    This the weirdest timeline. We have a shared fridge at work. Some people can't seem to leave it clean, so the other day I decided to clean it and throw away what was rotting in it. There were containers with moldy and disgusting food that have been there for weeks, yogurt that expired months ago and other disgusting old stuff all belonging to the same person. I asked them several times to throw it away but they didn't. In the end I threw it all away because of the risk of food poisoning for everyone. Now my coworker is upset I did this because they say some of it might still have been good (it wasn't). They're accusing me of theft and want to report me to the police and HR for stealing and destroying their property. Could destroying this inedible food really be considered theft and/or destruction of property? I know this sounds really dumb but I'd like to be sure.

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    Got let go the moment I was found out to be disabled.

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 07:20 AM PST

    Ok, I'm in Washington state, I'm a veteran who got pretty banged up back in the navy. But for the most part I'm still able to function. But as of the last year my whole back and my knees have been absolutely killing me and even at some points straight up giving out on me.

    It was enough to give me 70% service connected disability, and they prescribed several medications which specifically say "Causes drowsiness" Or "Do not take with Alcohol" That kind of stuff which they very specifically told me not to drive or work while taking.

    The problem being that it's to deal with the pain and I can't take them if I work.

    So I've been just sucking it up and going to work without it and taking it when I get home or on my off days.

    I am a security guard, and most of my shifts are pretty chill. Just sit in one spot for 12 hours and write down everything that happens. If someone comes up, just get out of my car. Super easy on my back and knees.

    Now, I got this job before I was hit with 70% service connected disability. And within days of it hitting, I was transferred to a new site which apparently required excessive running around and being on my feet, moving quickly, and other such things for about 10 hours.

    I quickly told my boss and even offered to cover the shift at least for the day. But I couldn't do this or anything like it for very long at all due to my medical problems.

    They INSTANTLY called off my entire schedule and called me in. I kinda saw it coming and showed up with all of my medical paperwork to prove everything in my system was legally there and such.

    I showed up and my bosses were there with a drug test on the table, I answered by offering my paperwork and INSTANTLY their tones changed claiming that the drug test was for me so that I might "take it to see how long drugs stay in my system."

    They refused to put me back on my work until the next week. The very next week I had to ask them three times to give me my schedule, and the second day back to work I got a notice, they called me in over things that were stolen from my site while I was not working in an area the customer told me I should not worry about patrolling.

    I figured I'd just get asked who told me not to patrol there and get sent back to work. Nope...

    Even after 5 years in the industry with a flawless record, they treated me like I fell asleep guarding the pope and he got assassinated.

    I was immediately relieved and ordered to turn in my uniforms.

    Every single person I give the details to tells me the same thing.

    They got rid of me exclusively because I was disabled, but they had to have a "my word against theirs" case to hide behind so they couldn't get blasted for firing me because of my medical condition.

    They even went as far as to lie to me and tell me the patrol guard came and checked on me three times in order to confirm that the stolen objects were stolen while I was there. He was only on site once.

    I personally doubt I have a case, a heavy blow to the head back in the navy makes me a little slow and my record keeping sloppy. Doctored logs will outshine anything I throw up in front of them. But at least everyone I talked to who worked for my company told me that they really were sleazy like that, but they cover their tracks well enough.

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    Want to leave, but husband won’t allow me to.

    Posted: 01 Nov 2020 02:12 PM PST

    I've been married to my husband for ten months and to put things nicely, he's an absolute asshole. He's 24 and I'm 22.

    Basically, he's cheated on me throughout the entire marriage and has treated me like garbage, emotionally abusing and gaslighting me.

    We have one son together who is 2 months old. I'm still breastfeeding him. I take the most care of him. I feed him, change his diapers, make sure he is bathed and clothed, etc. My husband doesn't do any of that.

    I would like to leave, but my husband is in the Army and we're currently located in North Carolina. I want to go up to Maryland where my mother is. I've told my husband this plenty of times, but he says I can't or else he'll take our son away from me.

    I'm not sure what to do at this point. He acts like our marriage is fine and like he doesn't do anything wrong. He will shout and swear if I remind him of his cheating.

    I don't have a job, but I do have my own car and will have financial help from my mother. His parents also know about his cheating and understand if I end up leaving.

    If I attempt to leave while my husband is at work I worry he will call the police on me.

    UPDATE:

    Thank you all so much for the support you have offered. I didn't expect my post to blow up like this, but I'm glad that it did.

    I've reached out this morning to a lawyer who is willing to help me out with no cost. I've also called my mother and she's coming to help me move my things out. My husband's mother knows as well and she's very disappointed that her son is acting so aggressively.

    I'm feeling much better now knowing that all of this will be over soon. My son will be allowed to see his father based on whatever custody agreement we come to. He'll be allowed to make his own opinion on his dad as he grows up because I'm not going to hurt him by talking about my negative experience with him. And as far as I'm concerned, my son will not grow up watching his mother be emotionally abused by ANYONE.

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    North Atlanta Suburbs. Purchased land, neighbors have built tree house fort on land that we now own. What happens now? Is it now our tree house? Could they legally come tear it down since they built it?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 06:04 AM PST

    Huge tree fort was built by neighbors long ago in the middle of the forest behind their house, not on property they own. We now own the property the tree house was built on. It's pretty awesome and we have two sons who were really excited when they saw it. Could the neighbors come tear it down or do we now own it?

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    Hotel switched my room, refusing me access to the safe (PA)

    Posted: 01 Nov 2020 11:30 PM PST

    I am currently traveling for business and staying in a hotel in Pennsylvania. When I checked in, I placed my suitcase in the room, put some toiletries in the bathroom, put some cash and my return ticket in the room safe, and went out to grab dinner.

    Upon my return, my key didn't work. When I went to the front desk, I was informed that due to a group travelling together and needing adjoining rooms, I had been moved to a different room. This was on a different floor. The clerk informed me that so my belongings had been moved to the other room. I told them that I had belongings in the room safe that I needed to retrieve. She replied that as the room was occupied, she couldn't allow me in. I told her that I wanted the manager to walk me to to the room, we would enter with the guest's permission, and retrieve my belongings. She said he was busy, but she would have him call me.

    About two hours later, I got a call from the front desk. The clerk said the manager called the room and the guests informed her that the safe was empty and I must be mistaken. I told her that it wasn't empty and I would meet the manager at the room to open the safe. She responded that the manager wasn't coming up and that the hotel is not responsible for misplaced articles.

    I went and knocked on the room myself, and nobody is answering. It doesn't sound like anyone is inside.

    Do I call the police now or make a report tomorrow morning? Can they even help me at this point? I don't know if they did anything illegal by switching my room while I was out, but I don't think a posted waiver of liability gives them the right to deny me access to my money or my plane ticket.

    What can I do?

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    California- lawyer will not sub out

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 12:28 PM PST

    My ex and I have had a request for modification of spousal and child support filed with family court since Feb, and we both had legal counsel. We have resolved our issues out of court and come to an agreement, which was prepared by my lawyer, and which both my ex and I have signed. However, my ex's lawyer will not sign off or sub out of the case. She is advising my ex to continue the actions and not to agree out of court. My ex has informed the lawyer, in writing, 4 times now that she is no longer needed, is fired, her services are not needed and won't be paid for, etc. The lawyer is holding everything up by not subbing out. What can my ex do other than threaten to file an ethics complaint? A lawyer can't continue to represent a client against their will, right?

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    My wife packed up & left while I was at work. Took our daughter, stopped paying any bills at our family home.

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 11:33 AM PST

    Background:
    Together for about five years, married for about three. We each have a child of our own from a previous relationship, and a daughter together who just turned four years old.

    Finances:
    I was already in the process of purchasing a home when we first got together in 2015. She didnt have great credit and a low paying job, so the house is only in my name. She did not contribute in any way to the purchase of the home.

    For the first two years that we were together she did not work, and I was the sole breadwinner in the family. After two years she got a job making decent money and shortly after we decided that the mortgage would be paid each month from her paycheck, as my job is freelance and sometimes pay is not consistent. Each pay period, half of her paycheck was direct deposited into an account which was used exclusively to pay the mortgage. This is the arrangement we had until she changed her direct deposit to no longer go to mortgage account, and moved out without warning. The mortgage was paid solely from her paycheck for over two years, while I handled all other living expenses from my pay.

    She has since contribuyted zero dollars to the mortgage or any other household bills. She has told me that since she moved out we have "our own separate bills now," and she will not be paying for anything related to our home. Every household bill is in my name, in addition to Cell phones, Car Insurance, Car registration. This has left me in a very very bad financial situation, as I am now paying for everything, including car insurance and cell, which she continues to use."Her" car is also in my name.

    Her Move:
    Arrived home from work on September 16th 2020 at 7:40p to find all of WIFE and DAUGHTERS stuff gone. No note was left, no immediate reasoning for her leaving came to mind, beyond our not so great relationship I mean.
    I called WIFE repeatedly but she would not answer. She turned off her iPhone location sharing earlier in the day while I was working. She answered to a few text messages but would not tell me where she is, only that they are safe.
    WIFE continued to keep her location a secret from me for about a week, when I was able to figure out that she had gotten an apartment with my ex wife, whom I share a child with. I knew they were friends because I had pushed them being civil for the benefit of our children. I have since learned that WIFE signed a one year lease at the new apartment.
    During this time her and my ex both asked my son (10) to keep it a secret from me that they are living together. Which I see as extremely wrong. Once I found out for sure that they were living together and told her so, she did tell me that her and my ex wife had asked my son to lie, and also gaslighted me when I first brought up the living situation. Calling me crazy, psychotic etc.

    Currently:
    It has been six weeks since she left. She goes back and forth whether or not she will make any attempt at working on things, but for the most part she shows no interest. She refuses to talk about anything even remotely serious or having to do with our relationship. She is also under the impression that since she is the one who physically left, that only my issues need to be addressed/fixed. I had pushed to go to therapy for several years before she left, and the time since she left. We have gone to one session (last week) and it went decent, with her saying she is willing to give reconciling a shot. However, even the conversation we had in the parking lot afterwards it was pretty clear that she was going to put little effort into it.

    She tells me that she needs "space" but has put no effort into working things out. She says that she doesnt owe me anything, and she doesnt have to do anything she doesnt want to. Everything tells me that I need to immedietly file for divorce and stop hanging onto the chance we will reconcile. The problem is that despite all of this, and the lying/cheating that I haven't mentioned here, I still love her unconditionally.

    I have never been in this position before, and to me it seems like giving up if I don't try absolutely everything to win her back. I cannot help but feel that she is dragging things out because she knows that she won't be able to survive 'on her own' if she doesn't have all of those bills paid, and me being there to drop anything to be there for her when she needs something.
    I believe if I do file for divorce I should file for an at-fault divorce based on her abandonment of marital responsibilities. I know that this will take an already bad situation and blow it up a horrible situation, however I cant sustain this household on my own for much longer. I don't want any money or property from her, and I dont think she wants anything from me (certainly not a relationship, zing!) but dragging this out for another year seems like a one way ticket to miserable town.

    In the state we live in (Virginia) an uncontested divorce when a child is shared requires being separated for one year before it can be filed. I want to work things out with her, but with her unwilling to be reasonable in any way, waiting one year will literally bankrupt me, which will obviously put my kids in a bad situation. An at-fault divorce can be granted immediately.

    I am pretty lost here.

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    Management broke into my apartment, possibly stole something (PA)

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 01:56 PM PST

    I live in Philadelphia and recently moved out of my apartment a few weeks ago, but my lease doesn't end until 11/5. The management company has been showing my apartment for a month or two. They emailed me about a month ago saying that our lock wasn't working and asked for us to just leave the doorknob locked and not the deadbolt next time they showed it. I responded saying that it was working fine for us and that they probably had the wrong key. They never responded to that and we just left the doorknob locked like they requested. The last time they asked to show it was in mid October. They are aware that we have already moved most of our stuff out.

    My wife and I went over last night to get the remaining few items we left after we moved out. When we got there, the doorknob keyhole was broken and unlocked with a key stuck inside. When we got inside the apartment there was one item missing. It was a table-top glass greenhouse that my wife's grandfather hand made for her as a wedding gift. It is a very sentimental item and my wife is pretty upset about it.

    I'm 99% sure that someone at the management company entered into our apartment without our permission and broke the lock in the process. They are the only other people with a key and I'm pretty sure it is the wrong key, which would explain why they could have broken the lock while trying to open the door. Also, the building requires a door code to get in, so I would be surprised if anyone else knew that code and tried using a key to get into our apartment. This must have happened in the past week because we had cleaners come over on 10/23 and they confirmed that the doorknob was locked and that the greenhouse was still there when they left. I don't know if someone at the management company stole the greenhouse (though I think a likely scenario is that they broke it and threw it away) or if someone else walked in and took it.

    We emailed the management company and confronted them about it yesterday. They won't respond to us. We called the police to make a report and waited 2 hours for them, but they never showed up. My wife went into the police department and they wouldn't let us make a report unless we called the cops over to the apartment again. I'm somewhat concerned that the management company is trying to ignore us until the lease is up. What are my legal options here?

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    [Seattle, WA] My landlord said she can ban me from working remotely at home, and that my room doesn't need to be a legal "room" because she lives on the premises with me

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 12:49 AM PST

    My contract says "No retail, commercial or professional use of the Premises is allowed unless the Tenant receives prior written consent of the Landlord". My landlord said she never gave me written consent to WFH (remote work due to covid), and since we can't really hang out in coffee shops or libraries I don't know where else I can go. I am a part-time intern and make almost no money, so I'm having a very hard time finding a place I can move to, but my lease isn't up for another 2 months and I wouldn't be able to afford rent (not to mention, I'd lose my job) if she decides I'm not allowed to WFH.

    Additionally, when I first moved in I only accepted the lease because she promised I could have a work space in the common room (my room is too small for anything besides a bed). I recently discovered a Seattle law saying a room must be at least 70 sq ft, but my space is only about 65 sq ft (I measured multiple times). When I brought this up she said that doesn't apply since she also lives in the house, and if I didn't like it then she also doesn't need to let me work in the common space because it's not a part of my lease.

    I'm very lost and scared right now; I have no money and no power over this situation since it is stuff in the contract. Are there any options for me?

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    [UPDATE] 21 year old sister's children are my stepfather's

    Posted: 01 Nov 2020 07:55 PM PST

    Original post here: Post (Which I believe may have been taken down by mods)

    I ended up flying out to Hawaii, to try to figure out the situation and support my family. I spent 10 days there, as my mom and sister spent time talking to CPS and a detective that I managed to contact about the case. My sister made a report, but has not decided to make a case. She wanted to move on and forward with her life, although she allowed them to take DNA samples from her children for if she ever decides to change her mind. I wish she would make a case, but I understand that it's up to her in the end, and I did everything I possibly could in getting law enforcement involved.

    My mother and brother in Hawaii are getting help from CPS to find a smaller place, get therapy, and even help in getting my mother a divorce.

    My sister decided to move back to Tennessee with me, in hopes of having a more stable life and better place for her children. I have accepted them with open arms and am in the process of helping them get settled in.

    Thank you all for your comments and help in my original post.

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    Landlord dents your new lease backing out of her side of the driveway. Says she doesn’t want insurance involved or she might have to increase rent. This is my elderly mother. What should I do?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 07:54 AM PST

    My birth certificate, SSN and all other personal documents of mine and my brothers have been taken. What can I do to protect us?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 08:06 AM PST

    Hello there. I live in Alameda county, California. Long story short, my mom signed off power of attorney days before she died in the hospital to a man she had just met on a dating site a few months prior. Because of the power of attorney and him lying about living in our home, he was apparently entitled to EVERYTHING in the house, whether it belonged to my mom or not. If I wanted to fight it I had to take him to court, which was too late. The day my mom died he had already gutted our house while we were at work, everything was gone. And just like that me and my brother lost everything we ever owned and the home we lived in. He lied about living there and the landlord wouldn't help us "evict" him so we could no longer live in the house without him, his other girlfriend, and other tweaker buddies.

    We contacted the police multiple times and nothing could be done. I can't report our personal documents stolen because they legally weren't stolen. I've talked to lawyers and they say I have a good case but none would take it because we don't have real assets to fight for and all the money he took from my mom's bank account is probably gone so neither I or the lawyer would get anything. I haven't been able to find a pro bono lawyer.

    Well, now our birth certificates and SSN cards and everything else are floating out in the world and there is nothing i can do about it. I don't really know how much can be done with just these documents. Can someone pretend to be me? Is it even possible to get a SSN change? Should I talk to our banks about putting up extra security or passwords on our accounts?

    Edit: TL;DR: we had our personal documents basically legally stolen and there's nothing I can do to press charges/get them back. How do we protect ourselves from fraud? What can be done with a birth certificate and SSN?

    I also put this under civil matters, since as my home was being gutted the police kept telling me "this is a civil matter"

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    Need answers about my marriage in AZ I have voting and divorce issues

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 11:58 AM PST

    A friend told me that this would be a good place to ask some questions. I am 24 and have been married to my husband for 5 years, we have a 3 year old daughter. The past year has been pretty rocky, but today I reached by breaking point and I want to leave, but I am afraid I can't get out. Our families are very religious (mormons) although my husband and I are not (or at least I didn't think he was when we got married). Over the past year he has had a religious revival and has become a different person from the loving man I married.

    He is teleworking now so this morning I asked him if he would be able to watch our daughter tomorrow so I could go vote (I really don't want to take her into a polling place with all the coronavirus issues). He told me that I didn't need to because he had already done it for me by mail. At first I thought he might be joking, but when I pressed him he said that he had voted for both of us two weeks ago (and of course he made my vote for Donald Trump and Martha McSally). I am furious, a growing point of contention between us has been about the issue of illegal immigration (we live relatively close to the boarder, so this is a hot topic for us). I had made it clear I did not plan to vote for any Republican because I think the way they are treating those in need who are trying to come seek safety in this country is reprehensible. I told him that what he did was illegal and he told me that I just needed to calm down, that it wasn't illegal because we were in a special "covenant marriage" and that because of that we are subject to the laws of Jesus and I have to be obedient to him, which means he can control my vote. Is this really true?

    I know we do have a covenant marriage because our families wanted us to do that, but I didn't think it would ever be a big deal because I thought we were not very religious so it wouldn't be an issue. I went to our room and cried for 15 minuets before I could calm down. When I finally went back downstairs I told him that I was very upset with what he did. He just laughed at me and said that he was sorry he hadn't talked to me more about my vote, but that he loved me and he knew this is what God wanted for our family so he did what he knew was right. He said I needed to calm down and that when I thought about it I would realize he was right. This is the final straw, I do not want to be married to this many anymore, I do not want my daughter to be brought up in this kind of house (my childhood was TERRIBLE because of crazy religious parents). I know he won't agree to a divorce, what can I do?

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    [Ohio] My wife asked a company to come out and give a quote to install a dryer vent. The company did so and at the end of the quote said there was a $49 fee for the quote.

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 10:24 AM PST

    Is this just one of those things where you live and learn or is the company obligated to inform a customer of the fee before hand?

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    Business selling gift cards after filing for bankruptcy. (NJ)

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 11:57 AM PST

    I purchased a gift card for my husband in July 2019. The expiration date was August 2020. When he tried to redeem it we found out that the business closed in November 2019 so the money was lost. I found out that they filed for bankruptcy in the US Bankruptcy Court in May 2019. I've been trying to research but haven't been able to find anything on businesses selling gift cards after declaring bankruptcy.

    Can someone point me in the right direction? Thanks.

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    Landlord won’t fix a hole in my floor what are my options

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 12:27 PM PST

    My landlord inspected my mobile home in July, he found a soft spot in the floor in a place that I never stepped on. It was close to the wall. He said he was going to come back and fix it. He didn't. It started spreading. Now it's about a 5ftX5ft area that's rotten and falling through. My entire hall. He has been back to look at it. He knows it's there. But hasn't had anyone fix it. Someone was supposed to come fix it last Wednesday but we had a hurricane come through Tuesday night so he was helping people get trees off their houses. I'm fine with that. But this has been this way for months. It could have been fixed before any of the hurricane damage happened. In the research I've done I've seen that possible options for us are withholding rent until it's fixed, fix it and deduct what we spend from rent, and suing. I'm in Alabama. Are these truly my options? I have fallen through this hole once, I don't want my kid to do the same. His room is through the hall so it's unavoidable. I just want to know what I can and can't do.

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    Is it harassment to call my dentist for a medical I record they refuse to provide? [MD]

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 11:14 AM PST

    I need a more detailed receipt than has been provided by my former dentist to submit for my FSA. She is angry at me and lawyering up because I left a review that was unfavorable to her. And she refuses to talk to me, but she has her office staff redirect calls to her when I just want a simple medical record and then to never speak with them again.

    The dentist told me to stop contacting her office but they ignore my emails for months at a time. Is it ok if I call a few more times to pester them about the receipt?

    Is my only recourse to wait 30 days and report to HIPAA? I need this paperwork by the end of the year and they seem to take forever to respond.

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    Where can I find affordable legal advice in texas for sex related crimes ?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 09:11 AM PST

    I have never done something like this so bear with me. I have an interview coming up with a detective soon. I don't know what kinds of questions they will ask me or how to prepare. I think I need to find someone to represent me or at least explain the law to me. I tried getting legal advice online a few times but appointments are about 100$ and i don't have that kind of money ! I have a lot of questions such as these;

    • if the person deleted the video evidence months ago, can the police still find it ?
    • exactly how much detail should i go into in the interview? Do I have to tell them everything, even things im not comfortable with ?
    • will the subject know that they are being investigated ?
    • how much can the authorities find out about this person / their internet activity?
    • other questions that for confidentiality reasons im not sharing on the internet

    My situation is regarding someone who was borderline abusive to me. I want to report them for having sex with a minor and for filming it. Mostly, I worry that this person is a predator and that I was not his only "victim".

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    UPDATE: Live in Mental Health Clinic forcing patients to be Christian?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 01:56 PM PST

    Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/jjgtbu/live_in_mental_health_clinic_for_minors_forcing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

    Okay, well a lot of stuff has gone down since this post, so I'll try to update here.

    After a few days, I started asking a lot of questions about our policies on religion and what was/wasn't allowed. I guess I must've asked too many questions because I was called in for a meeting with my supervisor, her supervisor, and the head of HR for the facility. They basically asked me what my issue was, to which I told them I was uncomfortable working for a religious facility, especially when that had not been advertised. They claimed they were not a religious facility, but that most of the kids and staff were Christian and so they could do what they wanted. After a bit, they basically pressured me into quitting the job. I recorded the entire conversation and have a copy of the recording. (My state is a one way recording state)

    As well as all the religious stuff, I saw some pretty serious abuse of the kids that I was in charge of. I'll spare the details, but it's definitely not ethical for a faculty that deals with abuse/trauma victims. I was only there for 2 weeks and saw this much, I imagine there's a lot more going on. I have a meeting with the head of HR for the entire hospital next week. I am planning on recording that as well.

    Things I learned while there that for me are just more red flags:

    1. They don't let the kids celebrate any pagan holidays (including Halloween, but not including the pagan rituals of Christmas)
    2. Some of the houses are banned from listening to anything other than Christian music (although in my meeting they acted as if they knew nothing about that)
    3. The kids do not have to attend sermons on Sunday, but must stay in the room while being watched and can do nothing else while they're going on
    4. My supervisor was dating one of the on site therapists and everyone, including the kids, is aware.
    5. They are a private hospital, but have received federal funding several times over the years in forms of grants
    6. About 20% of the kids are there by court order and the rest were checked in by their families.
    7. Nearly all of the staff have ministry backgrounds and none (except for the very top supervisors) have degrees in psychology.

    I'm pretty upset about the whole situation, but have not contacted any of the organizations suggested to me yet, since I still haven't spoken with everyone from the company yet. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice!

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    California: 63 y/o Mentally ill and physically disabled aunt can no longer take care of herself . How do we force her to seek medical care?

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 05:10 AM PST

    My aunt has severe schizophrenia and is disabled from being infected with polio as a baby. One of her legs is shorter than the other and she needs a leg brace and walker to move. Our grandmother was her legal and medical conservator, but she died in 2014.

    My aunt has been living with her teenage son since grandma died and has been "taking care of" her own affairs since then. No new conservator was assigned and I don't know why. I don't know much about her medical or legal problems. But she is delusional and can't take care of her legal affairs, including insurance. I just found out that they cut off her Medi-Cal because she didn't renew it. She doesn't know how and argues and makes paranoid accusations when we try to get her to take care of her bills and medical insurance.

    My aunt is now an invalid. Over the past few months she has become immobile, too weak to stand. but she refuses to go to the doctor because of her paranoia, and she lives upstairs and is too paranoid and afraid to descend the stairs because of her bum leg. She also cannot stand for more than a few seconds and falls over, and nobody is strong enough to catch her or assist her in any way. She lies in her own filth because she can't get up to use the bathroom.

    She was sent to the ER in march, but they only kept her under psychiatric observation for a few days and just sent her home. My cousin is physically incapable of taking care of his mother, he cannot do it. She has nobody to take care of her and will not take care of herself. She is literally sitting in her own feces right now, and I am afraid she is going to get a bed sore or infection and die.

    The hospital always sends her home after 48 hour psych hold. She can't be sent home anymore, they need to keep her or she will die.

    How can I get her to have another conservator assigned to her against her will? I have no money to afford a lawyer. None of us are employed anymore (*edit - I do not live with her). My aunt gets survivors and disability benefits, but her son pays her rent with it because she isn't mentally capable of doing it.

    What are our options? We are desperate and I feel like this is an emergency because she is filthy and can't pay bills or even feed herself without help.

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    Post Office Employee Claims that My New Address Doesn't Exist

    Posted: 02 Nov 2020 01:54 PM PST

    I recently moved apartments in NM. I was going to get keys to the mailbox, but was told that my new address as listed on my lease agreement doesn't exist. They stated that the correct address might be one of several different addresses, but when I used google maps, those addresses are on either side of where I'm living.They advised me to contact the management company, which has thus far not returned any calls. I'm really confused that the management company would just allow me to sign a lease and move in to an apartment that "doesn't exist". Furthermore, the gas and electric companies had no issues transferring my service. And how are the other tenants able to get their mail and deliveries? The postal employee absolutely refused to give me the keys until the lease is corrected. Is there some misunderstanding here? What can I do?

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