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    December 09, 2018

    Legal Advice Took Husband To ER For Possible Stroke and He Got 5150/What Can I Do?

    Took Husband To ER For Possible Stroke and He Got 5150/What Can I Do?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 07:22 AM PST

    This is a long story because a lot happened and is still happening.

    We live in Seattle. My father in law died suddenly and we flew down to Northern CA to deal with that. We decided to drive back. On the way, my husband started to say that he didn't feel right. His heart was racing, his face felt weird. He was on little sleep dealing with his family and we hadn't been eating great because of everything going on so this man who is normally pretty chill got flat out terrified that he was having a stroke.

    We work for a pretty big and well known non-profit health care provider that pushes the whole kind of better safe than sorry thing when it comes to your health so...I googled the closest ER and went to it.

    We got there and, by this time, I'm pretty sure he's having a panic attack. He's not violent or threatening or anything, just really really scared he's about to die like his father to the point that he's making sure I know he doesn't want to be cremated.

    I tell the check in person that he thinks he's having a stroke and I think it's a panic attack but I'm more worried about his heart. They check him in, he gets the code for the bathroom and goes to the bathroom. (In other words, he's not threatening anyone, he's not trying to kill himself, he's not unable to take care of himself.)

    After he's available, the nurse takes him for triage. His blood pressure is 188/100, which is NOT normal for him. I tell the nurse this and that I'm very scared about what that means. She just shrugged it off. She asked him his height and weight and he answered. Then she started to ask him all these mental health questions. When she would, he would look at me because...what the hell does that have to do with anything right now? His blood pressure is not right.

    So I answer these questions to the best of my ability while pointing out his physical symptoms were a very big concern.

    They take us back to what they call their ER Overflow. It ends up being psych. My husband keeps asking why he's there. They take that as he's unaware of his surroundings. He does as they ask and changes and such because it was pretty clear they had no intention of letting us leave.

    He's not put in a room, just a cot with a curtain in a line of cots with curtains. We look around and notice things like...their trash bins are just Lowe's Lawn and Leaf bags and they keep patient charts in three ring binders on a desk and they're accessible to anyone in the room.

    Where we work, the standard is you secure everything in a computer and patient information is guarded like state secrets. When dealing with patients, our medical staff asks them multiple identifiers no matter how many conversations they've had with that person before new information or new medical stuff has to happen.

    These people came up to my husband and just said his first name then started to talk to him like they'd been friends for years. He refused. He let them know we expect a certain level of patient safety and we're not getting it. If they don't ask him his last name and birthday every time, he's not talking to them.

    They took that and wrote it down as, "Paranoid."

    I explained to them the medical world we come from. They said it doesn't matter. They do things differently so the fact that he can't fall in line is an issue. They kept the "Paranoid."

    Eventually, they got him a televisit with a psychiatrist but wouldn't tell us much about where this psychiatrist is based out of or anything. When he pops onto the screen, he just says his name and that's it. It looks like he's in his living room.

    Again, this is NOT what we are used to.

    The psychiatrist asks my husband his name and his date of birth. My husband refuses to answer. He didn't agree to this, he doesn't feel medically safe, he doesn't trust what's going on. The psychiatrist spends all of five minutes not really trying and calls it a day.

    At this point, I'm not worried my husband is having a stroke, but I am worried his heart is going to explode because of how they are treating him and how they're not even touching on HIS concern that he's having a stroke. He started to beg me to not let them let him die. Then he started to try to go through at least the physical tests for signs of a stroke. The staff looked at him like he was this super sad insane guy and decided he needed Ativan. Because I was worried about his heart and I know the doctors I work with in my job prescribe it for some patients to feel ok with being in an MRI machine, I talked him into taking it in hopes that he would at least not care that he's so worried about having a stroke.

    Eventually, we hear back that the psychiatrist on the TV who spent five minutes with my silent husband has decided he's bipolar, is having an episode, and needs a 24hour hold and anti-psychotic medication.

    What?!

    So they start planning for him to be there for 24 hours.

    I try to fight them, but they shut me down every step of the way.

    Meanwhile, the Ativan is making my husband loopy. I look it up and...oh... it can cause hallucinations. Spiffy. This is going to help our case.

    The night wears on and they try to get my husband to take Zyprexa. At this point, the Ativan is wearing off but he's ok. He asks them if there's side effects with Zyprexa. They laugh and shrug. All drugs have side effects according to the nurse. He declines to take it. They tell him they can't trust him to be released if he can't follow medical staff direction. He asks again if the medication is safe. They assure him it is. He reluctantly takes it.

    A couple of months ago, his PCP back home prescribed him Prozac. Seattle gets funky around this time of year and, with him being from CA, the change in seasons can be hard. There's a lot of SAD in the area from the CA transplants. His doctor wanted to be proactive.

    This hospital KNEW he was on Prozac.

    They declined to tell us that Prozac and Zyprexa actually CAN interact.

    And, of course, it did.

    So now he's SUPER out of it, talking nonesense, suddenly becomes worried that he's peed himself. They try to take blood from him and his blood is so jacked they barely get anything. And everything just starts to to downhill from there. Eventually, they feel like I'm asking too many questions and being disruptive and kick me out then put him on a 5150 and he's been stuck there with no clear way out. I talked to the mental health person that put the 5150 in motion and she would not budge. She was adamant that my safety was in jeopardy. I told her I'm not scared of my husband and, that, once they stop giving him those meds, he won't have the symptoms he's having. She stated that she can't because of his paranoia that his identity is going to be stolen. I pointed to the OPEN BINDERS ON THE DESK of patient information and said, "You're handing it out to people here. He's completely justified." But they do it differently and, because he can't file in line with that, it's a really big issue. They had no intention of letting him go.

    Keep in mind, too, they'd ask, "You have XYZ insurance, right?" before deciding what sorts of things they're going to throw at him. He has excellent insurance.

    This is a small rundown of what I know has been done to my husband:

    They have "accidentally" given him his Prozac prescription twice a day when he just takes a dose once a day. They keep giving him the Zyprexa on top of it and he keeps having side effects.

    I have seen NO paperwork about anything happening to him. No consent forms. Nothing. When I asked for a copy of the 5150, first they couldn't find it then they said I need to ask Medical records. It's the weekend. This place is dead on the week outside of the ER. Not happening.

    I got in contact with our home medical team. The doctor in charge of his care told our RN he's not talking to her and hung up. (Our RN is now working on putting him through the wringer.)

    They refused to let me see him for an entire day. I'm going to try to see him today, but I'll probably get escorted out again. I'm walking a fine line of not getting out right banned from the hospital.

    There is no patient advocate in staff, no ombudsman. No social worker.

    All the lawyers in town take the weekend off so I can't get a lawyer. I talked to my police team back home because they're good people and they suggested I call the police here to do a wellfare check. The police here wouldn't do it.

    I brought my husband in for a stroke and now they're giving him meds he didn't really agree to take, his reaction to those meds are giving them a medical excuse to not release him, and no one here will help me.

    What do I do? How do I get him out?

    UPDATE I'm getting a lot of the same responses about certain things so I'd like to add:

    We work in health care. The place where we work requires at least two patient identifiers before we are even allowed to start talking to the patient. I get that it's probably not standard in most of the country, but our high level of care that receive from our company isn't either. We calmly explained why we balked. They couldn't humor him. The more zombie they make him the more his extensive training for his job makes him silent. Like we say, if we haven't pissed you off making sure you're you then we haven't done our job.

    My husband has signed that I can know his medical stuff and make medical decisions on his behalf.

    He thought he was having a stroke and no one was addressing those concerns so he was scared he might die from a stroke. I work with Neurology patients. His reaction was not inconsistent with my experience.

    Part of our situation is stemming from we are used to X level of care and professionalism and, apparently, that's an anomaly. But, no, I'm not going to let him be penalized because he expects a certain standard that all people should expect. When we spoke to our personal medical staff about the reasonableness of him keeping quiet because they don't do what we do, they consistently say they wouldn't talk either because that's not safe.

    There are ways for staff to validate the staff from other medical facilities.

    We are working on getting a lawyer. I called them and they won't say anything past he's sleeping and that he's not allowed visitors.

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    A lady at my gym suffered a seizure in the woman's locker room - she's now threatening to sue. I am 16 years old.

    Posted: 08 Dec 2018 03:42 PM PST

    (Pennsylvania) Hi there,

    I am a 16 year old Junior in high school and work part-time at a gym. I generally open the gym on weekends at 7 AM, and am alone in the building until our housekeeping staff come in at 8:00. It starts out slow as members come in, and usually picks up around 9 when our Sales staff and General Manager come in. The gym is a two story facility.

    Earlier this morning around 8ish, I was approached by another member who stated there was a woman in the locker room (downstairs) who was laying on a bench shaking and presumably having a seizure. So I RUN downstairs to the locker room, and sure enough, there is a woman shaking uncontrollably, but breathing. I had my cell phone with me and immediately called 911. I stayed on the phone with the dispatcher while waiting for the EMTs and Paramedics who arrived about five minutes later.

    The dispatcher stated I should absolutely NOT try to perform CPR/First Aid (I am licensed) or move her, only to hold on to her make sure she did not fall off the bench. The EMT's manage to revive? (I'm not sure if that is the appropriate term here) her and she gets wheeled out of the gym and to the hospital. I'd say we were in the locker room for about 20 minutes trying to convince her to go -- she was VERY stubborn. There was a personal trainer who was there to help me with whom I am EXTREMELY grateful for. I filled out an Incident report and filed it with our GM when he came in.

    We have had concerns with this member before, as she has health issues. The thing is, I have absolutely no idea how long she was suffering from a seizure for. It looked as if she was in the midst of changing in to gym gear when it happened. She checked in shortly after 7:15 AM.

    I just received a text message from my GM and she is now threatening to sue us for her seizure. Can she come after me personally?? As I said, I have no idea how long she was in that state for and I am terrified! Thank you in advance for your answers!

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    Korea - Blackmailed by ex-gf to continue dating her/give her thousands or she will destroy my reputation/get me deported.

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 07:09 AM PST

    헐, 가자. So let's get down to business (to defeat the Huns.)

    1. I'm an English teacher.
    2. Dated a Korean girl.
    3. Broke up.
    4. She was pregnant.
    5. Saw her once/twice a week for morale support, offered to go to doctor/see options and methods.
    6. She miscarried.

    Strap in. I'll do my best to trim the fat on the drama.

    Dated. Broke up because I was no longer attracted and she wanted us to get married (after 4 months of dating.) After a month of me "not being allowed to break up with her..." she tells me she was pregnant. Coincidentally from the last time we became intimate after I broke up with her.

    I comforted her, unblocked her on my phone, and did my best to assure her she's not alone and that I'm here for her as a partner to handle this....we agreed to look for methods of abortion.

    Cue 2 months of her crying every time we met for us to get back together and me literally having to run away and get lost in crowds or streets so she'd stop following me. She even threatens to keep it and drop it on my doorstep or family's doorstep, so that I can't join my military academy and/or to destroy my family.

    She tells me she miscarried. Hallelujah (My life is back.)

    I comfort her and remind her that we both have our lives back and can be normal. We shouldn't see each other anymore and I'm leaving in 2 months when my contract is over.

    Drama.

    A couple days later, she has bleeding, she goes to the ER. Has to have fetus manually taken out.

    Now here's where it gets tricky.

    She wants me to pay the bill. It's 3,000 bucks. All 100%.

    I have 200 in my account till payday tomorrow, and I only get paid 2,400 a month. And with 2 months left... I offered 1,000 as best I could and to cease communication. I'll make 5,000 in two months and still need money to live...

    She says I must see her 1-2 times a week and still pay the full amount.... or she will destroy me.

    I stay firm and say I won't see her again. Now she increases the money she wants to 3,500. And she accuses me of murdering it because of stress I gave her. For not meeting with her enough. For not dating her again.

    What did I do? Comfort and support her. Paying for all meals when we met, telling her to stop drinking alcohol (heavy drinker), and just give her emotional support.

    Blah blah blah.... too long.

    Now she threatens me (everyday), spam calls me 20-30 times a day, and is so evil. If I don't date her again or give her more money, she will.

    Email my father - I already told him. He's on my side and advised me to ignore her and that she's manipulative.

    Call every church in my mom's city to get her reputation tarnished. (My Mom is Korean, she is very close to the church.) - I talked to her too and she's on my side. She offered to talk to her but I forbade that and highly advised against that.

    Go to my work to get fired and destroy my reputation there - This is the scariest one. There are kids, moms.... anyone can walk in. This could get me fired and lose my pension which is 5,000, as well as get immediately deported.

    Tell her father - A retired policeman. She told me she'll have him find any reason to lock me up, deport me, or arrest me.

    She said she won't do anything if I date her again. 2 months left. She knows all my addresses and place of work.

    I argued a lot and was very careful with my texts. I have all the screenshots of her threats and even her Facebook pictures of her drinking every week as every couple days. Even from 3 days ago. (from friends, I've blocked her months ago)

    TLDR: blackmailed to date/pay money. If I don't, reputations of family and myself destroyed as well as deportation or arrest.

    I even offered a 33/66 contribution because I legitimately don't have money to spare, really. Can she really destroy me, or is this all a crazy bluff. Thank you. If more info is required, I'll be happy to provide in an edit.

    EDIT: Translated the bill. All it said was "amount due" and "amount paid." Nothing else. I already blocked her after she threatened and showed up at my apartment (denied entry).

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    Cop said "If I catch you walking this late again you'll be arrested and charged under reasonable suspicion of committing a crime"

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 02:06 AM PST

    I'm 18 years old and located in South Australia

    Two nights a week I travel into the city to spend the night with some friends. At the end of the night I catch a bus back to my town and walk home for about 20 minutes at about 11:30PM.

    Last night while I was walking I had a police car pull up next to me, the cop who got out stopped me and asked me why I was walking so late, I told him why and he asked for ID, I showed it to him. He asked to search my bag and I showed him, nothing but books and folders.

    He said "you look a lot like the kind of person who we catch all the time graffiting around here at this time of night" and then went on to say "if I catch you out this late again I don't care what is in your bag, it's reasonable suspicion"

    Basically I was told I can't walk home anymore because I look like someone who would graffiti places during the night. Is this legal? can he stop me from walking in a public place just because he doesn't like the look of me?

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    The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 05:10 AM PST

    When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom.

    When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking.

    My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor.

    A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes?

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    Kid threatened to bring a gun to school and shoot my niece. Is the school required to take action?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 10:07 AM PST

    California.

    My niece is in first grade, and on Friday a classmate was angry with her and threatened to bring a gun to school and shoot her. Her mother was informed after school by the teacher, who seemingly had no intention of addressing the issue any further. Only at the insistence of mom did the teacher take it to the Principal.

    No action has been taken yet, and it seems that the school staff wants to treat it as "Oh he didn't really mean it, and he's young.", which is very concerning. While I don't know whether or not this kid actually has the means and will to do it, it's still a situation that should be handled with the utmost caution and attention.

    Is there any requirement to take any certain action by the school staff or district in a situation like this?

    ​

    Thank you.

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    My cousin has been taking money from my mom’s bank account

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 10:34 AM PST

    My financially illiterate mom doesn't handle her own finances. Instead of trusting me (since I've been handling my dad's finances since I was in high school), she trusts my cousin more since she works in the finance industry.

    My mom went to the bank recently to check her bank statements since she's in the negatives and it turns out that my cousin has been depositing money from my mom's into her own account for the past half a year. She's taken an accumulated CAD$20,000. We've tried to contact her and all she would do is cuss us off and deny it. The bank statements literally have her name under the transfer transactions. We want to take legal action and get that money back. We're from Ontario, Canada.

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    420 destroyed my front door

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 08:14 AM PST

    I live in Southern California and I'm almost certain that my stoner neighbor set off my smoke detector when I was not home. The fire department knocked down my locked front door and determined that there was no fire inside of my house. The reason I believe it was my stoner neighbor is because the second-floor bedroom always smells like marijuana, and the window to that room was open during the incident. When I returned home, the batteries out of the smoke detector in that room had been removed. Do I have any rights To stop my neighbor from smoking on his patio if my bedroom smells like weed all the time And his act of smoking has damaged my house. What can I do legally to stop him from this. Thank you!!

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    Youtuber recorded me without consent in California.

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 09:11 AM PST

    I'm a pharmacist and I work for a chain pharmacy. I had a patient ask me some odd questions, then he went off on a tangent about some conspiracy theories. He asked my opinion, and I said I wasn't knowledgable about the topic, so I couldn't really have an opinion.

    He said that he was recording me and our conversation. I asked him to stop and he said that the store uses hidden cameras, so he has the right to record too. He said its "checks and balances."

    I when I got home, I googled some of the things the guy told me about directed energy and I found his YouTube channel. He has a ton of hidden camera videos where he talks with people about his theories. If I appear in one of these videos, what can I do to get it removed? He posts mainly on youtube.

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    My 6 year old step daughter raped -has STD-CPS issue - HELP

    Posted: 08 Dec 2018 03:58 PM PST

    Background-I say my step daughter, technically my live in girlfriends( of 4 yrs) 6 yr old daughter. I live with them and my 2 boys (from my previous relationship) . My girlfriends daughters biological father is incarcerated in CA. But my girlfriend and I decided to continue to let her grandparents see her (her paternal grandparents). This, however, ended on the 15th of November (her last visit with them). We decided to do this because she'd come back emotionally disturbed. Crying for weird reasons. Overly affectionate. Hugging anyone and everyone repeatedly. I love you's 200 times a day. Just very very odd stuff out of the blue. One of the most alarming parts was her crying hysterically for her dentist one night. she had only met her dentist once at this point , so We were like WTH . Sobbing emotionally. We asked her "what?! You don't even know your dentist! You met him for 1 hour one day! So at that point, we discontinued the visits because all this weird stuff coincided with her visits. Not to mention this 60 something yr old man has a long history of being "creepy". Talking about young girls on his YouTube Chanel with strange young girl, 3 way story videos posted to his Chanel, and younger girls on his phone that he'd keep. His excuse was to Take a photo of the girls when he sold a car to their parents (he's a car salesman). This is just the tip of the iceberg. Dudes creepy. I can go on and on.

    So now to the incident. it started last week. We left her girl and my 2 boys with my mother so we can go out for my bday dinner, take a break from children. It got late, so they stayed with my mom. When we picked them up the next day, my mom notified us that the little girl has diarrhea and is also complaining about irritation in "the front area". My girlfriend eventually went to examine her and found it "irritated". She put diaper rash Meds on her and the little girl said "hey this is exactly what grandpa does so I don't get a rash. So my girlfriend asks her again and she said, yea my grandma has done it before but my grandpa also does it so I won't get any rashes! We were disgusted. We've previously had a talk to her dad about the grandpa being around during bath time as this was something her daughter has mentioned happened "Grandpa washes me so I smell good". The dad defended his dad and they denied it. They said only the grandma does that kind of stuff. So that was that. We looked it up and that doesn't constitute anything illegal although it is very weird. So back to the incident, we pressed the little girl for more info. She said grandpa would lay her on the bed with a towel under her when grandma was at yoga. Grandpa said she's not allowed to tell anyone. At first, she said he only did it when she "had a rash". Side note/Btw-no previous history of rashes. If this was a legitimate medical concern, it should have been addressed as such and also relayed the message to my girlfriend is the obvious thing to do for continued treatment. They'd only have access to her for a weekend. 48 hours. So if there was a rash going that repeatedly needed treatment, we'd know about it. - back to the story, the girl has been spilling little bits of the story at a time and this is what she's admitted to thus far so this post doesn't end up being a mile long.

    *shes had a rash and grandma put cream on her front. *her grandpa has put cream on her when she has rashes as well as putting cream on her "front and back" when there wasn't a rash "just to make sure she didn't get one. *grandpa has sworn her to secrecy *grandma and grandpa sleep separately. She goes to sleep with her grandma and then sneaks off to grandpas room at night to play because there's a lot of toys grandpa out there. *grandpa gives her showers so "she will smell good" *she takes off her pants when sleeping with grandpa "because she likes to" (she's never expressed this desire here or ever" * she tested positive for chlymidia on her pee test and anal swab. * her hymen is intact. * her grandpa has been naked around her after showering "but she doesn't look" * grandma used to be super super close to the little girl but in the past year, she's been absent and it's been all about grandpa. * grandpa hugs her at night and she feels him against her * she said she doesn't know what a boys private part looks like. She thinks it looks like hers. She said she's never seen her grandpas. * grandpa asks her if it tickles and feels good when he puts on the cream. * grandpa "takes like a long long time to put it on, like 30 minutes" * she was at the hospital one year ago for bleeding from the vaginal area. They just did a uti check and sent her on her way. * she says her front hurts and sometimes bleeds at grandpas * we questioned her a year ago and she was silent and said no one touched her after the hospital

    A couple of issues to further complicate things. Cps. I signed their action plan to get a std test on my sons by today (3 and 9). So I think I'm going to run to the hospital soon because I read they can take your kids if you don't follow this. Today is the deadline they set. After I signed the action plan, they called me the next day and said they'd like to add a full body exam. I told them my sons weren't involved in this and they can kiss my butt. They will not have my kids naked and take photos like they were raped. I told them they need to be harassing the grandparents and not me. They said the facts are a kid has a std in my home and this is just for precaution and to "rule out my house" so I said , I'll get the chylmidia rest but nothing beyond that and not to contact me again or else you'll be hearing from my lawyer. They haven't called since.

    I'm worried they're going to come to my house with cops and traumatize my kids. Will they try to take my boys? What steps should I take besides fulfilling my obligations that I agreed to ( urinalysis)? Cps does not seem compassionate at all. It seems like out of anyone we've talked to during this whole ordeal, they've been the coldest and it almost seems like they get a bonus for taking kids away. It's very frightening.

    UPDATE-I posted an update down the line somewhere but I understand not everyone reading may have seen it, so I'm updating the original post.

    I took my kids to the hospital with the cps orders. They were checked out, std screening and exam. The Dr. was assuring to the fact she was the head of the child abuse division for that said hospital and she is very very good at this and it won't be traumatizing. So I let her do what she needed to do. They came in a couple hours later and informed us that they talked to cps and they'd need anal swabs of my boys after the exam. I was pretty upset to say the least but seeing how almost everyone here gave me similar advise, I kept that in mind, tried to stay as calm as possible and let them do what they had to do. So we get the results today. I already know what the results will say, but they can now "eliminate the household" once they see the results as well. I was also wondering what one person had mentioned, why the heck would they just ask of a std panel from my girlfriend and I? Maybe one of the cps people can better answer that.

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    Grandfather gifted me 10k amd family wants it paid back.

    Posted: 08 Dec 2018 03:12 PM PST

    Hey all. So my grandfather passed last February and before he died he gifted me 10k. And now my aunt is trying to make me pay it back. There is no contract or anything in writing. As it was a gift for the last 15 years or more of doijg whatever he needed. I know the back story doesnt mean much but ive been the one who did everything and anything he needed forever. I was more of a child to him than any of his children were. And his wife whom i do not get along with now even told the estate lawyer that it was a gift. So im just not sure if she has any legal claim to anything. Any help is very appreciated.

    Im in ny if that helps

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    Two years ago my ex boyfriend posted nude content of me on porn sites. Is it too late to report him to the police?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 11:27 AM PST

    When I was 19 years old I discovered that my boyfriend at the time posted nude pictures and videos of me performing sexual acts on porn sites and social media with my name and details attached to it. I found out about it when I applied for a job, who Googled searched me and saw it. When I confronted him he did not have a reason to why he did it and told me that he had done something similar in the past with another girl (non-nude pictures) and he had to move schools because of that. I broke up with him and he told me that he removed them. I did not know what to do about it and was too scared to go to the police and testify. Later, I discovered harassing messages that were sent to me via social media from random guys. When I met my current boyfriend and told him about it, he found out that there are still a lot of content online. Though my current boyfriend did a pretty good job taking everything offline, till this day (over two years later) he finds more content such as galleries, videos, and people pretending to be me on porn and social media websites. I had to put all of my social media on private for my safety.

    My boyfriend encouraged me to go to the police ever since we met and we discussed to have my therapist join us in filing a report, however, I could not do it mentally. I have an anxiety disorder, severe depression, I take antidepressants and go to therapy. I wasn't strong enough to do anything about it, I just wanted it to go away. This had caused me to lose a job, messed me up emotionally and created problems with my current boyfriend. After working on myself I think he should pay for his actions, however, I don't know if it's too late.

    Key details: •I live in California. •This happened over two years ago. •Revenge Porn in CA is a misdemeanor which has a statute of limitation of two years (I think?). •In most of the pictures I am over 18, though in one of them I THINK I'm underage (I have all of the pictures saved on a hard drive). •Stupid me, I deleted all of the messages from him at the time, but I can probably get him to confess again if I play a game. I also deleted the harassing messages from other men.

    What is the best route I can go by? Will filing a police report have any sort of effect? Will law enforcements be able to do anything?

    Thanks in advanced for all of your help.

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    Need help fighting for my Father’s estate

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 10:33 AM PST

    Location: Toronto, Canada

    I'll try my best to get all the relevant details in here. But this has been a rather long road and I'm not entirely sure what is legally relevant and what isn't.

    Let's start with the situation as it is, then I'll work backwards a bit to give some backstory.

    My father has days to a week left to live. In the last week he has had several revisions to his Will performed. Some with me present, some not. I am jointly my father's executor and power of attorney along with his 'wife'. I put 'wife' in quotations because their marital status is a bit questionable in my opinion but we'll get to that later.

    A Will was signed on Tuesday that I believed and my father believed was fair. His wife demanded amendments in her favour. Nothing major in my opinion. These edits took place on Wednesday morning and I assumed that we were done with this so that we could properly focus on his passing and not squabbling over his will. Fast forward to yesterday. I emailed my father's lawyer asking if I could deposit a cheque from his father's estate into my father's bank account as I am now his power of attorney. The lawyer said yes, and also included an unsigned copy of his most up to date Will attached to the email.

    I read that email expecting what we agreed to on Wednesday's revisions. It appeared that yet another revision was performed 2 days ago on Friday with rather drastic changes, without my knowledge.

    My questions are as such:

    Should I have been present for the most recent changes as his executor and power of attorney? Can his wife facilitate those changes without notifying me?

    What legal recourse do I have to have this most recent will deemed null and void to respect the one signed on Wednesday?

    How do I potentially have another revision made without coercing my father who is not only lucid about 50% of the time. (This was the case when the Friday Will was signed)

    I can outlined the contents of the Will if it is relevant, but in a nutshell, his wife went from owning 15% of his cottage and having a life interest in his cottage and none of his cash, to owning a quarter of all of his assets along with being the only person listed on the title of the cottage.

    If it matters, my father only recently married this woman in an effort to avoid his pension from being forfeit. He made this very clear that his married was more of a 'business deal' than one of love or devotion to his 'wife'.

    It's very clear that she has been subtlely and less subtlely coercing him to first marry, then move in and finally have his Will changed under suspicious circumstances.

    At no point were they common law throughout their time together.

    Please help or ask for more details if needed.

    tl;dr Money grubbing divorcée latches onto my father and has had his Will changed a week before his passing.

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    (MN, USA) Finally getting around to making sure my children aren't destitute when we die and my husband is encouraged to pull the plug if I need it. What sort of decisions should my husband and I have made in advance before we meet with an estate attorney to make the process as smooth as possible?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 06:55 AM PST

    On mobile so apologies for any weird formatting.

    My husband and I just had our second (and pleasebabyjesus) final child, so we are planning to finally hire an estate attorney to draft our wills, health care directives, and whatever other important documents we need to make sure our kids are cared for.

    I'd like to make the process as smooth (read: cheap) as possible, so I was hoping to have an idea of what sort of things we should already have decided before we meet with her.

    We have a house, 3 cars, 401ks, other small (under 5K) investment accounts, bank accounts, and company provided life insurance. So a modest estate, but not insubstantial. My husband also has a 13-year-old son from a previous relationship (he was not married and he does not have custody, but we have regular visitation and he pays child support).

    Here are thr decisions we've made so far:

    If one of us dies, the other one gets everything. If both of us die, his sister gets the kids. And even though my stepson is a cherished member of our family, he has a mom and stepdad with custody and the means to raise him to adulthood, so we would want as much of our estate as legally possible to go to the children we've had together, since the oldest one is still 16 years away from reaching legal age.

    We also have a few specific property items that we want to go to specific people.

    If we ever hear a doctor utter the words "persistent vegetative state," then we want all the machines turned off. Like right then, probably.

    Here are my questions:

    What would be the benefit of setting up a trust instead of a will (or in addition to a will)?

    How does my stepson factor into this? Is he automatically entitled to my husband's property if we don't indicate otherwise? I'm pretty sure his stepdad would move to adopt him immediately if my husband died. How would that influence things?

    Speaking of my stepson, my husband owns guns and he wants them to go to his son when he dies. It's a mix of family heirlooms, hunting rifles, and those stupid guns that he bought because they look cool. Since my stepson is a minor, how do we make sure this still happens if we die in the next 5 years? His other parents are both ex-military, so it's a household that already has guns in it. I would just want to make sure that the guns are legally transferred.

    Our house (deed and mortgage) is in my name only. I was told there was some form we could sign so the house didn't have to go through probate if I died and my husband didn't. Is this actually a thing? Does anyone know the name of this form?

    What other decisions should we be thinking about that we aren't?

    TL;DR: Going to be drafting wills and want to go in prepared so we can minimize the time the attorney spends on (and bills us for) creating our documents.

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    How to deal with friend who is talking about scary thoughts on suicide

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 10:27 AM PST

    My friend is 16, lives with his parents as an only child

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    He always talks about how his family always yells and screams at him and how they neglect him and make him do unnecessary tasks like walking home instead of driving with his parents and just abandoning him at Walmart or Home Depot. He also talks about the abuse he suffers, such as having his hair pulled, punched, stepped on, crushed by his father's body in his bed, etc. He talks about the most gory way to kill himself that would make his parents and family cry everyday for the rest of their lives, remembering how their son brutally died, and possibly make them divorce because of the mental trauma. The thing that really scares me is how his father always leaves his belt out, and a sharp knife. He also talks about stealing the car keys and driving it into the lake killing himself.

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    I don't know what to do, should I tell his parents? The police? He is really scaring me. Can I get in trouble if I report him?

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    Being sued for money received during relationship

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 11:13 AM PST

    Hi, Looking in legal advice in NJ. Recently ended a six year relationship with someone I was living with. After moving out, I received a letter from an attorney stating that my ex-boyfriend is looking to reclaim money given to me during the course of the relationship. The money was used to buy a car (at his suggestion, so that I did not have to take a loan) and for some medical bills. The attorney letter states that the funds were a loan that I now have to repay. When the money was given to me, at no time was a loan or expectation of repayment discussed, I accepted the funds with the belief that they were a gift. There is nothing in writing. I should mention that the ex is angry about the break-up, has been doing moderately harassing things, but nothing violent or threatening enough to get a restraining order. I believe this lawsuit is largely vindictive. The amount is approx $24k. During the course of the relationship I've also contributed funds including money (in cash) toward his mortgage and other household expenses at about $1200 a month for six years, or about $86k.

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    I have thirty days to respond to the attorney letter or something gets filed in court. Does he have a valid claim? Do I have a valid counter-claim for the funds I contributed during the course of the relationship?

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    Child labor law violation + undocumented immigrant

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 02:03 PM PST

    Hi, I'm a high school teacher in California. I have a student who works at a local fast-food chain that is exploiting him. He works about 50 hours a week there -- eight hours after school every day plus 12 hours on weekend days. He is 16. It is really affecting his health and his schoolwork. I know what they are doing is illegal. But this kid is also undocumented. If I report the child labor law violation, what happens? Is there a chance he will be deported as a result?

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    The house I'm renting was repossessed by the bank from my landlord. Can they kick me out in the winter? ( NS,Canada)

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 12:33 PM PST

    So I've been renting this home for just over two years. On Nov 1st when I sent my landlord rent he told me to reverse the payment,that the bank had taken possession of the home and to not make anymore rent payments until I hear from the bank by phone or mail. He said they would appoint a property manager and may or may not continue to rent to me. Still have not heard from the bank.

    My main question is can they evict me during the winter? Also, can they make me back pay rent since Nov or increase my rent ?

    Nova Scotia,Canada

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    My wife's grandparents gave her dog to a new owner without her permission. Can we do anything legally to get him back?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 12:24 PM PST

    Posting this on her behalf- My wife was raised by her grandparents who are members of a religious cult (this is relevant). Earlier this year in April, my wife decided to leave the religious cult, got married to me, and moved out. Her grandparents shunned and despised her for it, but said they would take care of her dog for a few months until we were in a position to take the dog back (our current apartment does not allow dogs).

    We are finally in a position to take the dog back now (8 months later) and called her grandparents, who have not wanted to speak to us in months now due to the religious reasons. They tell us that they no longer have the dog and hang up. They haven't picked up again and obviously don't want to talk to us.

    We confirmed from a third party that they did indeed give the dog to a younger couple and got a new dog instead. We think we know who the younger couple is but have not reached out to them yet (This younger couple is also in the religious cult and would most likely refuse to speak to us too).

    We still have all the dog's official paperwork of ownership and have filed him as lost through his microchip.

    Is there anything we can do to get our dog back? I feel really bad taking him from a new family that loves him, but her grandparents never should have given him away without even asking or telling us.

    My wife is heartbroken and any help is appreciated.

    Edit: We are in Massachusetts, USA and here's a picture of her dog, if anyone is curious

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    Boss wants to cut my pay in half

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 10:08 AM PST

    I'm a top-earning employee at my company. I make average $475,000 per year through salary and commission combined. The company has decided to cut my compensation package in half. If I decide to leave the company voluntarily, am I entitled to any compensation? Do I have grounds for any legal recourse based on the significant forced cut in pay?

    Would the answer be different if I only made salary, and the salary was cut in half, as opposed to my scenario of a combined salary and commission cut?

    Company size is about 40 people total; I'm based in Washington state. No one else in the company is getting a pay cut.

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    [CA] My landlord is forcing me to either be evicted or leave early without my security deposit over fees for having guests over. He is also keeping cameras in the house. None of this is in the lease

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 11:29 AM PST

    Three months ago, I rented out a room to live with 2 other housemates. The landlord lives with us as well, but he is only home on the weekends. About a month or two of living in the apartment, he noticed that I had a friend stay the night and told me overnight guests were not allowed unless we pay a fee-$50 per night per person. I was shocked because there was nothing written about overnight guests in the lease agreement-the only rules written were no pets and we must pay for any damages done to the house. My landlord is a cop, so I was intimidated and agreed.

    Fast forward one month later, I had brought four friends overnight without telling him and he caught me(I know this is was foolish of me and is my fault.) He was able to catch me because he installed security cameras in the kitchen, living room, and garage. My housemate felt uncomfortable about the cameras and asked the landlords parents about it when we moved in, and they said the cameras were not even on(I don't have proof since the parents told him through word of mouth). He texted me various things my friends were doing in the living room such as laying on the couch, opening cabinets, and leaning on the pool table-proving that he does use the security camera. Also, I believe he checks the cameras frequently. He would text me things such as to turn off the kitchen lights after I used it when I was in my room. He would have no idea of knowing it was me unless he checked the security cameras. Having something like this is very uncomfortable, and I wanted to know the legality behind it.

    He told me to pay $200 for overnight guests. I understand having an overnight guest may not be wanted but $50 per person seems unfair and unreasonable. I did some research online and it said a landlord is unable to enforce house rules not included on the lease/rental application or agreement. I debated with him and he told me that he will begin the eviction process. I had the option of either being excited or breaking my contract and losing my security deposit. At this point, I do not want to live in the house anymore. I want to know if he is able to have cameras and charge me $200 even though nothing of the sort is written in the lease.

    TD;LR: My landlord is trying to charge me $200 for having overnight guests. He is a cop who also keeps cameras in the main living areas. None of this was detailed in the lease. He is threatening to either evict me or have me leave without paying my deposit if I do not pay him the $200. What should I do?

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    Cop keeps calling me regarding trespassing.

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 02:59 AM PST

    I received a call from a cop a few weeks ago after I called him regarding a trespassing notice. They came to my house after a loud house party and I have no idea why they would be contacting me except for the have. To put a long story short. There was a party. Myself included and it broke down in a all out brawl. I know, bad. But it happened. I live in said residence with a brother who left the scene before cops arrived. After they did I was the only person left and very drunk so when cops showed up ( found out my neighbors were outside calling the cops) I stayed inside and didn't answer the door.

    Fast forward approx 5 days later I get a knock at the door for about 5 mins, I'm in the shower and don't answer, there is a card from a cop. It says call me.

    K. I call the cop and ask why they left a card at my door. I get a voicemail because this cop works swing shifts. When he calls back I pick and he informs that my neighbor has video footage of me trespassing. I ask what he is talking about and he he says he can't speak more and "let's meet up" to which I said. No and I don't know when I can.

    A week goes by and I get 4 missed calls from him.

    I have no idea why they are going crazy calling me but it has me worried. My parents say I should ignore them and get a lawyer. What is going on? I live my brother who happens to be my twin and I'm getting questioned about a trespassing? Not to throw him under the bus but how would they know the difference? We look the same. And the neighbors I feel have lodged the complaint have been the trespassers, my landlord has put a fence up with posted no trespassing signs. We have complained about them to our landlord more then 3 times. They stole cans, they have also stole a lawn chair and a brand new fire pit.

    I just need some advice, please.

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    My mom takes a 50% cut on my scholarship. Is that illegal?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 02:15 PM PST

    Hi! I'm a 17 year old guy living in Slovenia (if that helps the case).

    When I entered high school (3 years ago), I got a government funded scholarship. Nothing big, 50€/month. I didn't know my bank account details, so I let my mom enter her bank account details.

    The first time that I got paid, I only got 25€ from my mom. Why? She said it was for school supplies and for taking care of me (yet she doesn't that kind of "tax" for my 2 other sisters (who are both still not eligible for scholarship (10 and 14 yo)).

    I was obviously not happy with that as 50€ was already not a big amount and she took ½ of that! She said that if I wanted the other half I would have to buy myself my own clothes, my own shoes, my own food etc. It's probably also a good time to mention that I get NO pocket money, so I obviously couldn't live off that, despite me rarely buying new clothes and shoes.

    Recently, my mom was not particularly happy with my "behaviour", seeing as I distanced away from her for numerous reasons and doesn't want to give a single € of my scholarship.

    I already intend to change the bank account of my scholarship to my own, but is her behaviour illegal?

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    I wrote a computer program and I want to sell it different companies. What do I do to protect myself, and my code?

    Posted: 09 Dec 2018 07:29 AM PST

    I wrote all of the code for the program on my own. What do I do to protect myself and the code that I wrote? I am located in Indiana but the company I want to sell to is based in Florida.

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