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    Legal Advice [KY] Neighbors destroyed multiple mailboxes in the neighborhood and police refuse to do anything

    Legal Advice [KY] Neighbors destroyed multiple mailboxes in the neighborhood and police refuse to do anything


    [KY] Neighbors destroyed multiple mailboxes in the neighborhood and police refuse to do anything

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 06:24 AM PDT

    So a couple of days ago mine and 4 other neighbors mailboxes and our water meter cover was destroyed by our neighbor's kids. The others and us have all filed police reports however the police said they do not want to file charges on minors even with photo evidence.

    What are our options from here?

    Also some background, these kids have terrorized the neighborhood for months and have gone to court over trying to attack someone and running someone off the road. We just want it to end

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    Mechanic Disassembled my motor (was paid to replace fuel injector) told me my car was worthless and offered to take it off my hands for free.

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 08:51 AM PDT

    My Beautiful 1975 Mercedes Benz needed some work done it, I took it to a local mechanic who had pretty good reviews and (more importantly) works on classic german diesel cars (Because literally, no one does in Texas)

    Gave him a working car that just needed a drive belt replaced, he took apart the top half of the motor and didn't put it back together (Said he could if I had "A whole lot of money laying around, but it's like a swiss watch"), told me the car was worthless and that I should scrap it and then offered to take it off my hands "Free of charge"

    He recommended replacing a fuel injector, which he said would cost $250 in parts + Labor, What he didn't tell me is that he didn't actually intend to put the motor back together after installing the fuel injector (Which I'm not sure if he actually did) being a Swiss watch and all

    Do I have any legal recourse, is there anything I can do besides leave a bad review? I literally paid him money to brick my vehicle, and I have a suspicion that maybe he did it on purpose in hopes that I would give him the car "So he could handle the scrapping"

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    Landlord wants to be paid in cash

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 09:30 AM PDT

    My new landlord wants to be paid rent in cash so he can give it to his wife as spending money. I don't really care (I'm assuming my bank won't give me a hard time), but I'm more so worried that since it's cash I don't have any proof of payment. What's the best way to have proof I paid him rent? Is it enough the get a confirmation text or should I get him to sign something each month?

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    Individual was coerced by police to admit to something that didn't happen, landing a friend in prison for 8 years. Texas

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 05:54 AM PDT

    This is a very sensitive case so i'm going to give as much detail as possible but also watering down some of it to protect both individuals involved.

    In 2014, my friend (m25) pulled over by police in Collins County, Tx. He had a bunch of drugs in his car - he won't deny, no way to deny it. He did. However, there are further circumstances to this case. His brother (16) and his brother's girlfriend (15 or 16) were in the car as well. All 3 individuals were arrested for possession. He did not want to see his brother or his brother's girlfriend imprisoned for something that was his sole responsibility. They all spent 4 days in country for questioning, and my friend took blame for the drugs. Which was factual. The other two were just going for a ride with him because they were bored.

    Fast forward to the girlfriend (f16) interrogation - she states that she was coerced by police to state that there were inappropriate actions between my friend and her. She was a minor at the time and refused to talk, but they threatened her with jail time and she was applying for colleges, had never been in trouble, etc. She caved and gave a very vague statement that there was some sort of inappropriate relationship - but she did not elaborate. She was taken to a child advocacy center where she was again questioned, this time by a social worker, but she again just made a vague claim and was "very reluctant to talk." They did not indict my friend on any charges.

    Fast forward 2 years and 8 months and the girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) of the brother is 18. They approach her at her school and pull her out of class. They interrogate her without the presence of council or her father. She has since admitted that she was incredibly coerced by the detectives and they stated that if she didn't confess, she would go to prison for the drugs. She she admitted that there was an inappropriate relationship involved.

    They then arrested my friend, nearly 3 years later. He was give 5 years for the drugs, and 8 years for the other charges - concurrently. The "victim" - to not fault of her own - has outright stated to my friend and others that nothing ever happened, she had just gotten into college, and she was scared. Also, the social worker at the advocacy center that questioned her nearly 3 years back seems to be existent. There is no record of her ever working there. In his appeal paperwork, it states that they were never able to find this alleged social worker witness.

    In his appeal, he stated that they delayed the indictment until the victim was 18, so that she would be "more willing tot talk." His appeal was denied.

    He had pleaded guilty at the time because he was imprisoned in Arizona at the time for an unrelated charge and was under the assumption that he would receive credit for time served - as advised by his legal council. Upon completion of his sentence in Arizona, he was under the impression he would be extradited to Texas immediately. This was not the case. They released him for two week - then pressed fresh charges on him, starting his sentence over.

    He is up for his first parole in February, I have reached out to parole lawyers to see what they can do to help him. However, I'm wondering about the process of a victim who is willing to recant - as it has been 7 years now. Not sure about the statute of limitations, but she has stated she would recant.

    Any advice would be great. I'm marking this NSFW due to the nature of the crime, since I think anyone can put 2 and 2 together.

    My friend does have an extensive criminal history, however, it is all just drug related. His offenses are non-aggravated and he has stayed completely out of trouble while incarcerated.

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    Accessed my medical records without my consent

    Posted: 15 Sep 2021 05:45 PM PDT

    [TX] I applied for a nannying job in July 2021 to work for a family. The mother is a physician and has her office at a hospital nearby. I interviewed for the job and they really liked me and wanted to hire me and the mom said I got the job. She wanted to run a background check on me to make sure my record is clean. I said great and I gave her my full name, social and address and she said she was going to run the background check at her office. My record was clean and I got the job.

    I've been working for them since early-mid august, but something their daughter said to me was alarming today. When I was going to drop her off at her grandparents house she said something to me about my body which I have not disclosed to anyone, let alone this child. She said to me "my mom says you have (medial problem)". I asked her how she knew that and she said "when my mom looked you up at her office she said you had (medical problem)".

    It made me feel very uncomfortable and violated that she accessed my medical information through her office, which I did not consent to. Not only that but she apparently discussed it with her family. I have no idea if she accessed my medical records or my prescriptions that lead to that conclusion. It seems to me that it could be a HIPAA violation. I am certainly quitting now. Any advice on the situation would be great, thank you :)

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    My wife just went to the ER for suicidal intentions. She told the nurses to withhold any information from me. What are my rights as her husband

    Posted: 15 Sep 2021 03:18 PM PDT

    Apartment complex sneaking in aggressive “Release of owner clause” disguised as an addendum for lower rate internet package.

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 06:10 AM PDT

    [USA, FL] Apartment complex has a non optional "technology package" that is part of the rent/lease terms. They recently were able to change the offering to not include cable and have faster internet only at a lower price. Win win right?

    Well they said all renters had to do was come in and sign a lease addendum that shows the new rate of the technology package. When I reviewed the addendum there is only one line stating the new rate and any reference to the tech package, the majority of the addendum is a large "release of owner" clause that states you can not sue the property owner, associates, employees subsidiaries, or business partners for anything related to the lease, the unit itself, other residents or community members and literally says FOREVER.

    It immediately struck me as odd as it has nothing what so ever to do with the technology package and seems like corporate snuck this in to tighten immunity from any legal action even if the property is at fault. They also stated you can not get the lower rate unless you sign this addendum.

    My question is, is this legal and am I right to be concerned? What are my options in this situation? I don't want to sour relations with property staff but feel really uncomfortable that they disguised this addendum as a win for residents while holding the small rent reduction hostage contingent on complete legal immunity.

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    HOA trespassing

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 08:26 AM PDT

    Occurred in Colorado

    I rent a condo that has a private patio. It has a privacy wall all around minus a small section of shrubs to opens to our parking lot.

    Last week I watched as someone walked over the shrubbery and on our porch. By the time I could put shoes on, he was gone and I didn't see him nearby.

    This morning I got an email from my landlady saying the HOA had sent a notice that I was in violation due to having a charcoal grill on the patio. The notice included a picture of the grill. The grill is not visible from the parking lot, only from inside my own unit. The only way they knew was by coming onto the patio. My landlady said she was unaware that they had been there until she received the notice.

    I've reviewed the HOA bylaws and rules and there is nothing stating they have permission to come onto our patios to "inspect" them. I also reviewed state statues, along with local laws and codes, and could not find anything stating HOA managers were allowed to come onto the property without notice unless there was an emergency. I really don't consider this small rule violation an emergency.

    I emailed my landlady and expressed my concerns about the situation. I did rectify the rules violation by removing the grill so I'm back in compliance. Should I proceed any further? How can I keep this from happening again?

    Thanks

    UPDATE: Thank you everybody for the replies. I was able to clarify that the patio is NOT a general common element and therefore property management needs to at least notify my landlord if they access it. Them choosing to just walk onto it counts as trespassing. I'm choosing to let my landlord interact with the HOA management instead of myself. I'm documenting the entire issue and saving emails including the pictures they took. If it happens again, I will be taking further action.

    Additionally there is still a question of storage vs use of the grill. My landlord has said it's ok to keep outside since I don't use it and the rules technically only specify the use, not the possession of the grill. I will be putting a cover on it though so it can't be seen anymore. Thanks everybody for the input.

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    Sketchy guns found abandoned in NY family member's home. Legality ranges from 'questionable' to 'definitely not'. Now what?

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 11:06 AM PDT

    Unsure of how to flair this, so I'm leaving that blank and hoping for the best.

    Currently I'm in WV for grad school -- my sister, back home in NY, has been moving in with our grandfather after Grandma passed. In the process of cleaning out old things to make space for her and her daughter, she found some alarming stuff we all thought had been handled years ago. She called me seeking advice, because she's under the (objectively hilarious) impression that I'm a mature and informed adult that knows what I'm doing, and could help. So I'm seeking advice here. For background:

    About twelve years ago, our grandparents' youngest son (an intestinal parasite with limited skill at passing for a human being) was basically squatting in their basement because they couldn't bring themselves to kick him out, despite him being unstable and, frankly, dangerous. Things got really tense for a while as Dad started to lose the last of his patience with this thing that used to be his brother, and our aunts kept begging our grandparents to make him leave their house, and their parents pretty much refused to see reason. Things came to a head because he thought it a good idea to show the much younger and more impressionable me his, for lack of a better word, arsenal. This man (a felon with a history of contempt for the law, mental stability, and basic hygiene) had several rifles, four or five pistols of dubious legal origin, 50-round magazines, and his favorite item -- an antique stagecoach shotgun sawn down and fitted with a pistol grip. Being a kid, and not yet having developed a sense of discretion or when to keep my mouth shut, I told my dad about this. The resulting argument got my dad hospitalized and the parasite evicted when Grandma put her foot down and took Dad's side. The last we knew, he went somewhere in Tennessee, and he hasn't been seen or heard from in almost a decade. Before leaving, he claimed to have taken care of the guns, and we, being silly folk, believed this.

    Fast forward to this week, and my sister calls me in a panic because guess what she found, left with all the other crap the parasite left behind and neither grandparent could bring themselves to go through or get rid of in the last decade. She hasn't told Grandpa, partly because the parasite has long been a blacklisted topic of discussion under his roof and partly because she pretty reasonably thinks his blood pressure would go through the roof if he found out about this, and the adultier adults don't know either (Dad and our aunts likewise aren't exactly young and in great health anymore, and heart conditions run in the family).

    Now, she and I both know that the 50-round magazines and the sawn-off are definitely Not Cool with NY law, and besides that the parasite couldn't legally possess most if not all of this stuff due to his legal history (probably part of why he left it). What we don't know is how to handle any of this, if we safely can, and what kind of headache we could invite by opening this can of worms. Somewhat complicating things is that there are two items my sister actually likes -- a pearl-handled black powder revolver, and a reproduction black powder musket (that even I'll admit looks great, and would make regionally-appropriate wall art). I don't know who we would talk to about this, or if it would be possible for her to make her two interests legally kosher while offloading the rest, or if we can safely say "we found these in our grandpa's basement, they are not his, we have no idea of their legality and no paperwork of any kind, please don't hold us or him liable for whatever stupid and/or illegal thing the previous owner did with them" or what.

    I'm a fulltime grad student (STEM, so I can help them with what's in their wellwater just fine, but not so much with the legal advice) and hundreds of miles away, so I can't just go back home and help in person, but I don't want my sister or my grandpa to get into trouble over this asshole's dirty laundry. If I need to tell her to put it in a box and bury it like she found Jumanji in the hoard, I'll tell her that, but obviously that's not ideal (and, if it ever came up, invites some culpability of "why didn't you do the legally kosher thing tho?") so I'm hoping someone can tell me "talk to this particular kind of lawyer" or "file this paperwork" or "call this number and explain to the nice officers the sheer magnitude of bullshit your former uncle is putting you through 12 years later".

    PS: my dad's family understandably never wants to talk about anything in relation to the In-Name-Only-Relation, but Mom has privately told my sister and me more details as we've gotten older, so I should be able to clarify or add details if something is needed to arrive at a more concrete answer of what to do.

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    Bought a concert ticket for $80, it is now worth $400 and the person I bought it from refuses to hand over the ticket and insists on just giving me back the $80.

    Posted: 15 Sep 2021 10:34 PM PDT

    Title says it all but i'll explain a bit more in depth.

    My girlfriends sister used her card for the payment of the three tickets at checkout. This was to save money on fees so we didn't have to do three separate transactions. There are many messages that state that two of the three tickets are for my girlfriend and I. We then paid her sister $80 each for the tickets, but they remained on her account because we planned on going together and it would be easier to keep all the tickets together rather than separate them (Both our payments to her sister state that we are paying for tickets in the transactions descriptions). Now because the tickets are worth so much more, she is refusing to give them to my girlfriend and I, and she is saying that the only thing she will do is give back our $80 ($160 total between my girlfriend and I) even though we had already bought our tickets, and they're now worth $400 each.

    Is there anything that can be done to retrieve the tickets?

    Location : USA, Michigan

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    my landlord threw out all of my belongings.

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 10:43 AM PDT

    a year ago, I left for rehab. I left all my belongings at home including my phone and two laptops. my rent was paid for the month, and I didn't tell my landlord where I was going. I got a call in rehab from my twin sister who had my key saying she came into my apartment and it was empty. at rehab I texted my landlord and he claimed that because I had left bags of garbage in my basement, he thought I was dying and told the police to come into my apartment and check. I think that's a lie. I called the albany police department and they said no, that didn't happen. when I got home and it really hit me that everything was gone, I called and was texting my landlord. he said he hired someone to 'clean' my apartment while I was gone and that he had no part in what happened. I texted said person and he denies it. this was a year ago but losing everything single one of my belongings hurts me so bad. what do I do? where do I start?

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    [MI] Employer taking a cut of my tips

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 08:52 AM PDT

    Hi! I work at a juice cafe and on my paycheck I noticed my tips were less than I had anticipated. I get paid state minimum hourly and receive occasional credit tips. I asked my employer, and she stated she takes a 15% cut because she works in the kitchen. I looked up the state laws and from what I understood employers can only 'take' tips to supplement the hourly of tipped employees, which wouldn't apply.

    Is this situation kosher?

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    Remodeling contractor didn't do any work, but my mom is still on the hook for $80k.

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 01:47 PM PDT

    First time posting here, I apologize in advance for any mistakes. This is in Florida, USA

    My dad, who was a 100% disabled veteran, was experiencing severe health problems, and was anticipating having to be in a wheelchair. So, in early October of 2020, he contacted a remodeling company to make the house more wheelchair accessible. They assured him that they would meet the criteria he had set out for them and would get him the financing needed through a third party lender. The financing was approved, and the contracts were signed by both my dad and my mom.

    A month later, the remodeling company sent him the drawings for the proposed changes, but they did not meet the criteria that my dad had asked for. My dad notified them that this was unacceptable, and made clear what had to be done in order to meet his specifications. This went back and forth until the 6th of May when my dad told them that the bathroom door (in the drawings) was still not wide enough to accommodate a wheelchair. We did not hear back from them after this. According to them, there was a change in management, and his project got lost in the shuffle.

    On June 20th, my dad passed away. No work was ever started, and as far as I can tell no final drawings were ever approved. On July 1st I called the remodeling company to cancel the work. The person I spoke to told me that my mom would still be on the hook for the money that was spent on the project. I asked them for an itemized statement of what was spent, and I never received it. I then called the third party lender and they said that my mom would owe the full 80k because the remodeling company had requested the full amount as a cash advance on the project, and that I have to take it up with the remodeling company. I've tried contacting the remodeling company multiple times through email and phone, and they never respond.

    I'm at my wits end with this whole affair. Do we have any recourse here? Or has this contractor figured out a legal way to rip off an elderly widow? Thanks in advance for your time and any incoming advice.

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    Unattended pets on private club property

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 03:44 AM PDT

    I'm a board member at a private sporting club in NJ. Over this summer a member of the organization has left their dog either in their vehicle (windows all the way down) or tied up to outdoor areas on the property while they themselves have left the property for hours.

    I informed this member that this is not acceptable and to please leave their pet at home or take their pet with them when they leave the property.I guess in my head, that seems pretty common sense and humane.

    This has snowballed into a fight between me and another board member and the member and the highest ranking board member (weird structure, but it's centuries old). The highest ranking board member says that we shouldn't be telling members what to do with their pets. Because of this, I am calling for a board vote on this matter.

    I am presenting my side with "no pets shall be left unattended or unsupervised on club property, even if confined in vehicles. This is a potential liability issue for us if the animal were to become harmed or harms a other member or pet".

    Their argument has been "I am at the club too long to keep the pet alone at home" (which I don't understand how it's better to keep your pet locked in a car for hours than at your house for hours). Or, we can't tell members how to treat their pets (which, as a board, we absolutely can on private property). They are also implying a special need which I'm 100% okay with special need accomodations. I fight for special need accomodations in this and other organizations - but one of those accomodations shouldn't be that you're allowed to leave an animal in your car or tied to a try while you are miles away for hours.

    I feel like my case to the board should be an easy win, but I know that doesn't always happen. What liability arguments can I make to sway the fence sitters? What are we opening ourselves up to legally if we allow this to continue?

    Thanks

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    Dad passed, mom is in dire straights, & we just found out my aunt has been lying and collecting money as a “caregiver” for grandma w/ dementia…when my mom ACTUALLY takes care of her daily…

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 07:50 AM PDT

    In Ohio. Is there anything we can do? Are there any legalities about these kinds of things for family disputes?

    It seems she applied through the state without any of us knowing and my mom rightfully deserves the money, or at least to know about it.

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    M.D. Using a Pseudonym?

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 05:49 AM PDT

    Hello,

    I honestly have no clue if this is the right r/ to post this question..so if not and you're able to point me in a better direction, I'd be very thankful.

    Here's my situation (and I'm trying to keep it non-political)... I've discovered an M.D. from California who is writing medical "research" and advice under a pseudonym. It was honestly pretty easy to figure out who the "real" doctor was by looking at domain registries, etc. The doctor is peddling non-FDA approved treatments for conditions (I'm sure you can figure it out), and the doctor touts their extremely high success rate in using these treatments. Aside from pushing scientifically dubious information, one of the most sketchy issues for me is that this M.D. is not a specialist/practitioner in a field that would be prescribing these alternative treatments for the "intended" patients. The doctor is a licensed (yes it's current) Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation Specialist...which from my limited understanding of medicine...is not a field that treats infectious diseases or sees "general" medical patients. If I'm incorrect here please let me know.

    So, a Physical Med & Rehab doctor is writing under a pseudonym pushing scientifically dubious treatments, and touting their success rates. Regarding the latter...it would seem to me that they are either straight up lying (seems most likely), or "seeing" patients on the side and prescribing stuff they shouldn't (I'm guessing its unlikely this is occurring). So...is this legal? Is this something that needs to be brought to someone's attention for investigation?

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    Swatting incident?

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 08:38 AM PDT

    Hi legal advice,

    I came home last week to a dozen cop cars in front of my house. They said that someone called and said there was a stabbing in my home. I offered to let them clear the house, and minutes later they all left.

    I went to the precinct yesterday to get more information, and they weren't helpful at all. Basically told me that there was nothing to follow up on. Otherwise, the cops involved were decent to deal with.

    Other info:

    Last year, I woke up on a Saturday to an officer saying that someone called in a domestic dispute at my residence. I don't know if this is a coincidence or not, but I think it's very strange that two similar incidents have happened in 15 months.

    I have a dog. I'm afraid that if I were home there's a chance the cops could have entered and shot my dog. This is what irks me the most.

    The night of, the cops called the number back and the guy had no idea what was going on.

    There's really no motive for anyone to swat me. I don't game, I don't have any known enemies, and I mostly keep to myself.

    All I'm looking for is - what now? I clearly don't want this to happen again, but I'm afraid I'm just stuck and can't do anything to protect myself from it happening again.

    Please advise.

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    FL | Neighbor wants to remove my wall, 100 year-old-Tree in wall.

    Posted: 15 Sep 2021 06:45 PM PDT

    Sharing few details for anonymity. My wall divides my property with my neighbor's plot of land. I have paid property taxes on my wall for over a decade. My survey from 2000's shows my wall on my land. There exists a large tree, most likely over one hundred years old, impregnated into the wall. The roots run under my house.

    Long story short, neighbor produces a new survey they had taken that does not disclose the tree in the map. Neighbor talks to me about the tree, I don't give him the time of day. A bulldozer appears over the weekend parked on their empty lot. I speak to the driver, who talks about all the damage that "will be done to the wall when they try to remove my tree."

    The property owner say they're doing me a favor because of the roots under my house and my pipes. I wrote a strongly worded email that they "are not to touch my tree or my wall and it is my wall on my property." Things got heated. The property owner essentially says they hate my wall and they want it down no matter what.

    My lawyer says I don't have any problems. But the bulldozer is still there two days later. What else can I do to save my wall?

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    My wife (an Indian national) is in Mexico for the weekend, she forgot her current Green Card in the US [Texas]

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 12:24 PM PDT

    My wife is on a girls trip to Mexico. She's a citizen of India and recently got her permanent residency here in the US (Texas). She just landed in Mexico and discovered that she took an earlier card that had expired in 2020.

    My question is, how much trouble is it going to be to get her back to the US? I went through our docs and have her current Green Card in my possession. Is this something that I can meet with customs and hand the current Green Card over when she lands, or are we in hot water?

    We live in Texas, she just landed in Cancun.

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    [OH] Car attempted to be towed off of my landlords property

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 05:38 AM PDT

    Hello, as the title states, I was sitting at home when I heard a tow truck outside. I was parked on my landlords property although maybe my bumper was hanging over 6-12inches at most. The officer on the scene claimed someone called and said it had been "abandoned" there for 4 days but I had not even been parked there 48 hrs. Anyways the tow truck driver informs me that unless I pay him $50 he will tow my car. So of course I had to pay him $50.

    Following the incident I contacted the police for a report, they had none. I contacted the tow truck company, they didn't have anything.

    In my opinion I shouldn't have to pay $50 so that my car won't get towed off of my landlords property. I asked him if he authorized a tow and he told me he did not. Do I have any legal recourse here? Any help would be appreciated.

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    [NJ] Fairly certain my apartment is "illegal" and my landlord is breaking a few tenancy laws, plus she's harassed my parents and disrupted my semester. What are my options?

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 11:14 AM PDT

    I moved to NJ from IL on August 23rd to start my PhD program. I found a room to rent on the website roomies.com (similar to AirBnB) earlier this summer - it's basically a furnished studio apartment in someone's basement (only the kitchen is shared) at a reasonable price ($1200 a month) relative to the area (it's not cheap here). I spoke to the landlord/home owner, a woman in her fifties, a couple of times earlier in the summer, once by phone and once to do a video tour of the space. Everything seemed fine and I signed a lease agreement with her for one year. Issues started cropping up from basically day one, which I'll summarize below. I apologize this is long:

    • Quick detail for later context: when I interviewed for the room, she told me that she had always rented to international students and I'd be the first non-international student she'd rent to

    • When I got here on August 23rd, I found out there's no actual door to the room (it's a curtain), which she didn't mention when I first inquired about the apartment. I also found out that the parking situation was different than she led on - she failed to mention during the interview that you can't park overnight on the street in the neighborhood. Since her driveway is single lane, that meant we'd have to constantly be moving cars if someone else wants to leave. My father, who came with me, asked if I knew about either of these and I told him no, otherwise I wouldn't have taken the room

    • On August 26th, I was talking to her about August rent and prorating it. She mentioned to me that her past tenants have always given her a bit of cash in part of their rent payment. I thought this was strange but figured I'd give her a couple hundred in cash, whatever. I did not verbally agree to anything, though

    • On August 28th, she texted me and said that her past tenants actually paid the full rent in cash each month. That's when the first red flag went up. Her reasoning was "I have people who work on my yard and clean the house and I always pay them in cash". I knew right away this was bullshit (can't she just go to the ATM herself?), but for the record, in the over three weeks that I've been here, nobody has come to work on/clean anything. Again, I didn't agree to paying her in cash

    • Worth mentioning that this woman doesn't understand that she can't just walk into the basement without my consent. In that first week she came in a few times to "talk to me", including once while I was taking a nap

    • On August 31st, she texted me again about paying the rent in cash, trying to claim that we'd "agreed" that I'd pay the rent in cash. I told her we made no such agreement and that I'm not comfortable doing so, telling her I'd rather just do an electronic check like I did for the deposit or write her an actual check. She told me no, she needs the cash, and that we need to talk. I didn't reply. She tried calling me. I didn't pick up. She decided to just down into the basement. I had to hide in the bathroom to avoid her, which felt really humiliating. Once she was gone I snuck out through the side door and went to take a walk for a while in the park nearby. She continued texting me, now telling me that paying by check is fine but that she has "concerns" about me and needed to talk to me. I didn't indulge her. I went for a run a little later that evening, during which she tried calling me and then texted me again saying we need to talk. I asked her to tell me what her concerns are and she refused. I reminded her that we'd just been talking in the kitchen earlier that day and she had no issues then, and that I'd like to know, in writing, what her complaints are. She told me "I'm not writing anything, this is my house and my rules, let me know when you're home so we can talk". I didn't indulge her any further, just sat at the park for a while and went home later

    • Wednesday, September 1st: she kept texting me through the morning asking me to "talk". Again, I ignored her. I spent as much of the day out of the house as possible, only coming back in the evening to have dinner. This also happened to be the night that Ida hit the east coast. My room flooded (nothing terrible, just enough that I couldn't stay there for the night. Nothing was damaged). I quickly packed a couple of bags and went upstairs. I waited in her kitchen for the storm/flooding to die down. I made it to a hotel later on around two or three in the morning

    • Thursday, September 2nd is when things really start taking a turn for the worse. While at the hotel, my parents (listed as my emergency contacts) tell me that the landlord had called them. They thought something awful had happened. Instead, she called to complain about me, including such lovely nuggets as "He didn't say hi to my boyfriend the other night when he passed by". She then continued to text my father throughout the rest of that day with more "complaints and concerns", including asking if I was violent because I kept to myself. My mother tried explaining to her that I just like to sit in my room and read a lot, which is really it

    • I checked out of the hotel on Friday, September 3rd, but went to a Panera next door first to have lunch and look for a new place to live. During this time I found out she was still texting my father. I texted her and told her to leave my parents alone. She replied by telling me that she's got "new rules" for me when I came back to the room later (it had been cleaned), including "For the safety of everyone, you're not allowed upstairs". I told her I didn't appreciate being treated like I'm some kind of threat and she told me "Don't take it so personally". I also told her I wasn't consenting to anything without it being written out and printed for me to review. I went back to the house later that day and avoided her

    • Another possible red flag? I asked her for her homeowner's insurance info so I could be reimbursed for the hotel stay. She refused to give me the info and instead said she'd pay me herself

    • On Saturday, the 4th, she left a printed copy of her new "rules" on the stairs just outside my "door". I scanned them and then threw them away. My dad also told me she was still texting him that day. I texted her and told her that if she didn't stop we would be filing a criminal complaint against her for harassment. She told me to "stop being mean"

    • On Monday, the 6th, she called the cops on me. Remember I mentioned the parking situation? Generally I'm the one parked behind her, because I'll go to the gym at night. She has a bad habit of waiting until the absolute last moment to tell me that I need to move my car because she has somewhere to be. On this particular day I didn't see her text message until half an hour or so after she sent it. I figured I'd brush my teeth and then move my car. As I'm brushing my teeth, I hear two voices calling my name. I step out of the bathroom and there's two police officers (one male, one female) standing in my room. I was genuinely confused as to why they where there (and told them so), and they told me she called over my car. The female officer then asked me, in a lower voice, if I'm OK, and I told them no. The police were super laid back, thankfully, and heard me out as I explained everything. They (obviously) had to be professional and couldn't say anything directly, but more or less implied that she's insane and told me to try and find a new place to live ASAP. After they left my room, she talked to them for another twenty minutes to complain about me. What makes this even funnier is that she did not actually have to go anywhere. She told the officers she had to leave in a few minutes for something urgent, but she never left the house (she also told them that I didn't tell her I was bringing my car when I moved here, which I definitely did)

    • After the police incident, I emailed her and told her that I've documented every single little thing she's said/done. She told me to grow up and that we wouldn't have an issue if I just moved my car. At this point I just blocked her number and her email. I have not spoken to her (or seen her) since

    • While all of this has been going on, I've noticed a few other things that might make this an "illegal apartment": for example, I don't have a smoke detector, carbon monoxide detector, or fire extinguisher in the basement. There's the aforementioned lack of an actual door. The ceiling is not the requisite height

    • About the "I've only rented to international students" bit from earlier: I put two and two together and figured she's been taking advantage of these students who won't know any better. Her security deposit refund is iffy too - she claims in the agreement that she keeps $400 of the $1200 deposit for "cleaning and upkeep", despite also saying that all tenants need to clean their space before they move out. I have a friend who cleans apartments/houses in Seattle for a living - I showed her pictures of my room, she said there's no way it costs anywhere near $400 to clean the place

    This has had a tremendous impact on my mental health and my studies. Ever since the police incident especially I've been waking up with stress headaches and a lot of anxiety (to the point of feeling nauseous and wanting to vomit). I do not feel comfortable at all living here (I get anxious just hearing footsteps, because there's no telling whether she'll decide to just waltz in here again) and have been frantically trying to find a new place to live. I have not been able to focus on my semester at all and am on the verge of deferring to the spring. I am mentally/emotionally drained. On top of this, if/when I find a new place to live, I'm going to have to spend a lot of money on the security deposit and furniture - I didn't bring anything with me since this place was already furnished, and given that I'm from Illinois, I can't just pop over to my parents' place and get my stuff

    I did call New Jersey's Legal Services hotline a few days ago and explained my situation. They suggested I start by calling code enforcement to come check the place out (I haven't done this yet because I've been so consumed trying to find a new apartment quickly). I figured I'd post here and see what other suggestions/advice you all may have. Anything is greatly appreciated. I'm genuinely exhausted by everything

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    Can I discuss my wages?

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 12:18 PM PDT

    Washington State. I just got a talking to from my supervisor because I was discussing my wage at work. Apparently I am not allowed to talk about what I make at work because it "affects morale". She said it's a company policy (this company has operations nation wide) but could not produce the policy, but said she would find it. A quick Google and my understanding is that they actually CANT tell me not to talk about wages. I told her that and she said "no, actually, it's company policy". Am I wrong?

    ETA: she said since they're a "private company" they can have that policy.

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    Highway Water Runoff is damaging my Property (VIRGINIA)

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 05:08 AM PDT

    Several years ago the highway that runs in front of my house was repaved. I am not sure what they changed but ever since then, the water runoff from the road has been redirected along the side of the road and has now significantly eroded the sediment alongside the road. At this point there is a significant drop off along the edge of the road (about 5" deep and 2 and a half feet wide) and formed a ditch which has redirected all of the water runoff directly into my driveway and is now destroying my gravel driveway.

    As the homeowner I am not sure what exactly is my responsibility here. I am guessing it's up to me to fix my driveway caused by the runoff but I can't do too much as every time it rains it damages my driveway even further. Something will need to be done about how the runoff from the highway is handled or have the eroded ditch filled. For that I am guessing that would be something VDOT would need to address? The ditch/ drop off is directly next to the highway which means it would fall into the the right of way category?

    I am not sure how the law applies to situations like this. Could someone please fill me in as to what my options are?

    Thanks in advance!

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    being charged for being incarcerated

    Posted: 16 Sep 2021 11:48 AM PDT

    is it legal to be charged for being incarcerated in a county jail? like, charging the inmate for their stay. my friend just received notice he has to pay $13,000 for being incarcerated. is this legal? it seems backwards he says he thinks the letter is from a law firm.

    edit: location wichita kansas

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