Legal Advice Update. DBAG boss wanted to screw over a former employee with a fake job offer. |
- Update. DBAG boss wanted to screw over a former employee with a fake job offer.
- [Kansas: Update] Drone is harrassing livestock. What options do we have?
- Ex-wife married first cousin and wants to migrate with the children to Nevada from Germany
- Falsely Admitted to University. Deposit not being refunded.
- Police attempting to influence a friend of mine not to press charges for having his pistol stolen by a minor.
- Wife and I have a signed Maritial Dissolution Agreement. She has filed a motion to have the judge throw out the agreement and "start fresh".
- TX - Is it illegal to pretend to offer someone a job in the hopes to make them unemployed?
- [MS] I may have bought a stolen firearm. How can I find out if it actually is stolen.
- Suing an old "landlord" for kicking me out of a house and keeping my money and now he's countersuing me for an extreme amount
- Troop advised to order too many cookies
- Neighbor sued for damages and it was settled, now her husband is threatening to sue for the same property damages.
- [TX] Son is having repeated altercations with another student with what seems like major behavioural problems.
- Unwanted House Guest (TX)
- My grandmother set up an irrevocable trust that I can’t access until I’m 40, can that be changed?
- Brother-in-law took over the "family house" while my wife's name is still on it. Help!
- (TN) Unwanted houseguest forced me to move out, not sure what to do next
- Guy claims I pulled out in front of him hit his car.
- CT- Employer wants me to repay bonus/relocation, despite extenuating circumstances. Do I have any options?
- My mom was roofied, raped, and taken advantage of by her "friend" who has been trying to get in her pants since High School. Potentially being imprisoned for DUI.
- HOA I don't belong to is asking for dues
- Worked 40-60 hours per week at last job. I was never paid overtime. Is this a violation of FLSA?
- Ex-employer hacked into my Glassdoor account
- purchased laptop, received wrong but compatible ac adapter. Location -USA/CT
| Update. DBAG boss wanted to screw over a former employee with a fake job offer. Posted: 06 Mar 2018 11:03 AM PST Went to HR this morning and played the audio from the phone call. I also pulled the emails between me and the EVP and handed them over to HR. The Chief Personnel Officer pulled me into his office and made me play everything for him. I told him the full story of eveyrthing about the former employee and the EVPs attitude. To make him completely understand that I would not let this get buried, I told him that the former employee knows the whole thing. Said that I planned to leave at the end of the week if the EVP situation does not get handled. (Did not tell him about the new job.) The CPO thanked me for my honesty, which by the way was a major red flag for me, and said he would be contacting the COO immediately. At lunch I was pulled into a meeting with a junior HR person to talk about my performance review. We do not have performance reviews. It went badly. I was given 5 minutes to pack up my things at my desk and leave. I had had an email typed up on my phone and sent it to the CEO detailing everything. I had typed it up as things happened and pretty much knew I would be cut today. Luckily my access had not been cut yet as I received the CC to my personal email back almost immediately. It received a one sentence response of "Thank you for bringing this to my attention." So all in all I am pretty sure they will not do anything. They just do not realize how many people are leaving with no notice Friday. A LARGE number of people know. [link] [comments]  |
| [Kansas: Update] Drone is harrassing livestock. What options do we have? Posted: 06 Mar 2018 11:21 AM PST Informed the sheriff as suggested here, also handed over a copy of the video tape of the drone harassing the livestock. They said they'd look into it. Never heard back. But the drone crashed on my property one day. Soon after, two teenage boys came to look for it and I didn't give them the drone and asked for a parent to come to collect it. When the father of the boys came, I explained the situation to him and showed him the video footage. He was horrified and promised me that those kids will never get their hands on the drone again. I agreed to not tell the police of what the kids did on the condition that it won't happen again. So far it hasn't. [link] [comments]  |
| Ex-wife married first cousin and wants to migrate with the children to Nevada from Germany Posted: 06 Mar 2018 03:20 AM PST We are Germans living Germany. We have 2 children together. They live with their mother and I see them every weekend. Last summer, my ex-wife went to holiday to Las Vegas and married her first-cousin over there. Now she wants to migrate to Las Vegas together with the children. In Germany it is illegal to migrate to another country together with the children if they under 18 (which they both are) if the dad also has custody. She is bringing me to court now in order to gain full custody so she can move. She is trying to play dirty tricks with lies in order to do that. The chances however are slim that she will succeed. Marrying your first cousin in Nevada is illegal. In the slim case she does win the trial, I want to block her getting a green card through marriage, by making the marriage void. She has admitted in, which is written in the trial papers, that she married her cousin. I have not brought up the fact her marriage is illegal and she apparently either doesn't know or thinks it wouldn't be a problem. I am afraid that if I tell her that the marriage is illegal in Nevada before the trial or before she migrates, that she will lie that it is not her cousin and the US government has no way to check that. The problem is that her cousin has a different last name, has lived his whole life in Las Vegas, and she in Germany. How will I be able to prove that they are first cousins to the US government? I also want to bring this up during court day, with hard proof. But I don't know how. The only 'proof' right now is her casually mentioning it in an interview with child protection services, which is all documented. Her mother and his mother (the cousin) are sisters. His mother lives with him in Las Vegas, but my ex-wife's mother lives in Egypt (has lived there her whole life). The two mothers do share the same last name. I also would not know how and where to report it to the US government. [link] [comments]  |
| Falsely Admitted to University. Deposit not being refunded. Posted: 06 Mar 2018 04:51 AM PST Edit: Thank you for your advice, everyone. As of right now, I have sent a polite email to several higherups in relevant departments and hope that this issue will get resolved. Also, I am 100% certain that I am talking to the actual University as I called the admissions office (using the number from their official website) and they confirmed the error and that my payment had arrived. Thank you. Hello LA, I am in Germany (German Citizen) and the university is in Massachusetts. I have applied to several US University and received an acceptance email from one of my top choices (private university). I paid the acceptance deposit of 2,500 USD two weeks ago and received the confirmation email from the university that the deposit had arrived. The problem. One week later the university notified me that I had been falsely accepted and they rescinded their offer. I still had an open acceptance from another university so while not ideal, I wasn't too mad. However, the university is not willing to refund my deposit. Beyond their initial email stating that they would not refund it, they currently don't respond to my emails or calls. I am not exactly familiar with US law and because I'm in Germany it might make things difficult. Do I have any options besides just letting it go? Thank you. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 07:57 AM PST Upstate NY My friend had his house broken into while on vacation. Two or three teenaged boys, classmates of his daughter, stole his PS4, some wireless speakers, and his S&W .44. They ground off the serial number and took all of the bullets out (hollow point ammunition). One ratted on another, they dumped the gun and told the police where it was, and the police found it. They know who these kids are, it's not a huge town, and they still have the ammo and other stolen items. My friend had expressed his desire to press charges, to the fullest extent he's able, but they're telling him they'd like to just 'let them go' because they recovered the gun. With everything that going on in the country right now, first of all, my mind is blown that they'd say this. My question, though, is about what I can do. Am I allowed to call the police and ask about what's being done, as a citizen who knows of the crime? If they continue this, I can go to the newspaper, correct? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 07:32 AM PST TN. Wife and I have a signed Maritial Dissolution Agreement. She has filed a motion to have the judge throw out the agreement and "start fresh". Her basis for this motion is that I haven't been following the agreement (I have, can prove each item in question to the judge). My question is, what would be something that the judge might throw out the agreement and require us to start fresh? [link] [comments]  |
| TX - Is it illegal to pretend to offer someone a job in the hopes to make them unemployed? Posted: 05 Mar 2018 06:24 PM PST This all happened a week ago and I have found other employment so that answers the question everyone is going to ask. Guy who used to work with us a few years ago left on very good terms. He got his MBA and went on to another company at a salary requisite to his skill level. Today he comes back for an interview at the company for an AVP position that is a small step up for him. Everything went well in the interview and everyone was on board. Problem is the EVP said he is not going to give him the position. He is going to lead him on and make him think he has a job until he hands in his 2 weeks at his current position. Then my EVP is going to just pull the job offer with some bullshit excuse. When I asked him why he would do this, he said the most important lesson I can learn in life is loyalty. "Stay loyal or never come back." Yeah I went ahead and warned the guy about it and told him not to put in his 2 weeks notice. He wants to go ahead and go along with the whole charade just to see how far the EVP will go. My question is, is this in any way illegal? I know that a company can pull the rug out from under you in a million completely legal ways, but if there is proof that it was malicious, what can be done? Thinking about going to HR with this, then a lawyer if they dont do anything about it. Either way I will never work at a company he works at again. [link] [comments]  |
| [MS] I may have bought a stolen firearm. How can I find out if it actually is stolen. Posted: 06 Mar 2018 06:17 AM PST For starters, I'm legally able to purchase and own a firearm. The transaction was legal, but I do not have a bill of sale. I bought it from a friend that I worked with that was sort of on hard times. He seemed like a really nice guy and I didn't have any reason to believe he wasn't. It's been two years since I bought it and I've since lost contact with the guy. I've also found out that the guy had a pretty rough past and was actually a convicted felon at the time I bought the firearm. He's also on the hook again for possession of a stolen firearm. This has me worried that the gun I bought may be stolen. What can I do to verify and what can I expect if it is in fact stolen? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 10:24 AM PST Location: Atlanta, GA A while back I subleased an apartment from a guy who was defaulting on his lease and so he moved out and I moved in. I paid him rent and a $1,000 security deposit. A few months go by with a lot of issues with the dude and turns out he defaulted on his most recent lease as well, is being evicted out of that place, and so tells me he is taking his apartment back. So I am basically forced out of the home and am taking him to court. He never paid me back what I paid him in rent nor my security deposit. The total never paid back amounts to $1,700. I get a letter in the mail today telling me that he responded and we are going to court. He is counter-suing me for $4,200 for "apartment damages, utility useage, and emotional distress with intentions".... What. When I moved in the apartment was a dump. The place was absolutely disgusting. My then girlfriend helped me clean the entire place. We spent days making it feel homey. I'm not a trashy person and would do no damages to the place because I know he would sue me for them. I'm not that dumb. Now it appears he's doing it anyways.... What can I do? Do I need to contact my ex-girlfriend and have her come testify in court with me? Can he really sue for emotional stress or whatever and win? This is absolutely ridiculous... [link] [comments]  |
| Troop advised to order too many cookies Posted: 05 Mar 2018 07:27 PM PST We are a brand new Girls Scout Troop in KS, as in less than 4 months old. Each Troop has a cookie manager who gets trained on the cookie business. Girls Scouts are able to start selling door to door in December, and then at booths in February (I believe). Since our Troop is new, we didn't even get our cookies until February. Also, the typical advice for ordering cookies is to buy 80% of what your Troop sold the year before. Being a new Troop, our cookie manager relied on the local council who provided the advice on how much to order. The cookie manager never told us how much she was ordering and I never signed anything in regards to the amount or an agreement to sell. Last night I found out that she ordered about 1,750 boxes. We have just 5 girls in our new Troop. Reading online, it looks like the average Girl Scout last year sold 175 boxes. The amount she ordered would force each girl to sell twice that many, and we started later. The cookie manager said whatever we don't sell, the parents have to pay for because the Girls Scouts organization will not buy back boxes. I estimate we have about 1400 boxes left to sell. The money is due this Saturday. The cookie manager called the council this morning who basically said it isn't their fault we bought so much. I have no idea what the fuck to do. I had no idea she was going to order that many, nor do I have $1000 to help cover the cost. My daughter and I have personally sold about 140 and are going door to his weekend. I think we can probably get another 100 sold. So my question is, would we have any legal recourse over buying an insanely large amount based on council advise that was inappropriate? Or is there anything I should be doing right now to help protect myself? I have no idea why the council would advise us to buy so many knowing we were a small Troop, brand new, and getting a late start. I'm also concerned that even if we manage to sell our "portion" that they will try to make us pay for the boxes the other members didn't sell. I appreciate your advice. --- UPDATE --- We have the council now helping us out. We have more booth times slated and are selling them on NextDoor and Facebook. We have called local organizations and nursing homes. Some of us are going door-to-door all weekend. We are doing everything we can to get these cookies sold, but I still think with the enormous amount we will have a lot left. To answer the question, the cookie manager, while she made a bad decision, is not scamming us. I talked to other Troops. Many will only order what they presale, but the council will advise you to order beyond that because ultimately they want to make money. Lesson learned here that the council isn't necessarily looking out for our best interests. I've managed to sell 60 additional boxes delivering them all over town to people online since yesterday. I work a full-time job (50 hours a week) so I'm in fucking cookie hell...but at least I don't feel like I'm going to have a panic attack anymore over it. Also, I did not sign anything about cookies. Ultimately, my goal is to try and sell what my portion would have been. After that, it seems that it's on the cookie manager since I didn't sign an agreement to sell. I want to do right by the Troop, but am first and foremost concerned with my family and our financial well-being. I will update when all is said and done. All of your advice has been much appreciated and I'm looking into all avenues. I hope to never go through this again. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 01:37 AM PST This woman just wants to win really badly it seems to be all she thinks about. Really didnt want to settle. Now i think she drafted this letter in her husbamds name to threaten us. Can she have him sue us now? New york state [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 07:49 AM PST My first grade son as had been attacked by another first grader several times in the past couple months. One of these attacks involved This kid's hands around my son's throat. We've talked to the VP twice now and filed a police report with the district. However, we've been told multiple times that K-1 is a specifically protected age group by Texas law, which prevents much of anything from being done outside of suspension, which seems to be having no effect. We were offered a possibility to request an exception from student services for a transfer for this child to an alternative school, but other than that, apparently law even forbids transferring the boy to another class. Apparently not only has my son had issues with this child, but the entire class has, including an incident of a violent outburst that led to the teacher being injured. My question is, are these new zero tolerance anti-bullying policies all bark and no bite? Do I really have no recourse other than to cross my fingers and hope that this child meets criteria for this exception, while also hoping that something doesn't happen in the meantime? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 07:28 AM PST Sorry for the wall of text, I'm on mobile. So a little background, my dad has let an ex of his stay at his place until she can get on her feet (get a job, things of that nature) she was kicked out of the last residence she stayed at, hence why she asks my dad. Anyways, they both get in these shouting matches with one another to the point where there is physical abuse taking place. My dad came to my room (myself, my girlfriend and her son stay with my dad as well) and his arms are streaked with blood from her clawing at his arms. I'm tired of the shouting matches and fights with them and trust me I've told my dad numerous times not to engage, as she actively comes looking for a fight. She knows how to push my dad's buttons to get a rise out of him. She's made numerous threats to my dad about having some guys she knows come to kick his ass and things of that nature. I know she's not on the lease and she doesn't pay any sort of rent, doesn't even contribute to groceries or things of that nature seeing as she has no employment. She's now claiming her and my dad are common law married and that she has a right to stay there. I've also heard her say she has 30 days before she can be evicted, her story changes every fight they have with one another. I just want her out! All she does is start drama with my dad. She's a toxic person that we all don't need in our lives. Basically, what can I do? Or what can my dad do? I'm at a loss here and any help will be greatly appreciated. [link] [comments]  |
| My grandmother set up an irrevocable trust that I can’t access until I’m 40, can that be changed? Posted: 05 Mar 2018 11:19 PM PST Before you start to make assumptions, no I don't want the trust money know just to have the money. I would like to be able to buy a house before I'm 40. After my grandmother passed away I was informed that I have an irrevocable trust set up for me that I can't access until I'm 40, I'm wondering how difficult it would be to pursue altering that in any way. Thanks [link] [comments]  |
| Brother-in-law took over the "family house" while my wife's name is still on it. Help! Posted: 06 Mar 2018 12:30 AM PST This is a bit of an odd situation dealing with FL housing. A number of years ago, my wife and her siblings wanted to buy a house for their parents. They had moved around a lot as children and wanted to take care of their parents while also creating a "family house" where they would all always be welcome. At the time of this decision, my wife and one of her brothers(OB) were the only ones in a position to sign for the mortgage. This happened well before my wife and I had met/married, so she didn't have any other major financial concerns at the time. Her and OB applied as co-borrowers and were approved. (As a note, I believe OB also used his VA loan to do this as most of her family is military, including her.) Mortgage payments were made mostly by their parents, but each of the siblings helped out with what they could afford when they could, so all of them have put some money into this house. One of the brothers even lived there with the parents to help out and take care of them when he could. About 5 years ago, things changed drastically. By this time, both OB and his sister(my wife) had gotten married and had a kid. OB had retired from the military, and was looking for a place to settle down. Then their father died. OB and his wife decided that this was the perfect opportunity to move into the family house! OB's mother could stay with them, but the brother still there would have to move out. They didn't ask or talk to anyone at all about this decision either. They just assumed that since his name was on the house, it was his and they would live there regardless of the prior arrangement with the other siblings. OB told his mother and brother that they were moving in and things would have to change to accommodate them. The mother and brother moved both moved out and OB and his family moved in. This all happened within a couple months after the father had passed, like they were vultures just waiting for the carcass to stop moving. Family drama aside, this is where the legal issue comes in. Since OB moved in and took over the place, my wife really doesn't want to have her name on the mortgage any longer. Her name being on it is hindering us moving forward as a family as we can't get approved for a home loan of our own. Hell, we had issues just getting a car loan because of it, and she's already been told she can't even get her VA home loan while she's attached to OB's. We've talked to OB numerous times over the past few years about doing an assumption or refinancing or even just selling the house entirely. He's refused to take any actions at all, constantly coming up with various excuses as to why every time anyone in the family asks about it. Recently, he's even taken to actively avoiding his brothers and mother when they happen to run into each other in public. Does my wife have any legal standing as a co-borrower on the mortgage to either force the removal of her name or force the sale of the house? OB has burned all his bridges with his siblings and mother, so legal recourse seems to be the only avenue left. We know this is less burning the bridge and more nuking it, but we can't move forward with our own family plans while she's shackled to this mortgage. (This coupled with other OB family drama has forced us to this position, but that's for a different sub.) [link] [comments]  |
| (TN) Unwanted houseguest forced me to move out, not sure what to do next Posted: 06 Mar 2018 10:41 AM PST Sorry for the wall of text, I'm on mobile. I'm a graduate student living in off-campus housing. I was paired with an undergrad roommate (20?F) because I was out of state and didn't know anyone. For the first few months, it was fine living with her. Then she got a boyfriend..who's been "staying" with us for weeks at a time. I've reported this to my landlord and they've documented it, but they said they can't do anything "because they don't know his name so I should just deal with it or stay with a friend". My roommate works weird hours, so she'll leave our door unlocked for him to come and go as he pleases, even when I'm not home. I've come home on several occasions to him in our kitchen and she's not home, or both of them are gone and the door is still unlocked. On Thursday, I left for work at about 8am, and shut the door behind me. Roommate's boyfriend followed me out and screamed at me calling me a bitch, and said "what the fuck is wrong with you, quit slamming the fucking door!". This isn't the first time he's screamed at me because he thinks I'm being loud, (in the apartment that I pay rent for and he doesn't...), but it's the first time I've felt scared of him. Because of this, I immediately went to move my stuff and stay with a friend. I went back yesterday to take pictures of our common area/my room in case they damage anything. When I contacted my landlord to break my lease, they told me that they had no documentation of him staying here long-term (even though I've sent them countless emails AND have gone down to the leasing office to report this...). They also told me that I'd have to pay money to break my lease, and find someone to sublet. They also refuse to do anything about her boyfriend. My question is, what's my next step? I can't afford the ~$3000 it would take to pay out my lease (plus where I'm living now), and it's the middle of the semester so no one is looking for a new apartment. Are there any laws about breaking my lease because I felt like I was in danger? I don't know what to do, and my closest family is 8 hours away and can't come help me. Reddit, I could really use your help. [link] [comments]  |
| Guy claims I pulled out in front of him hit his car. Posted: 06 Mar 2018 09:53 AM PST I live in Illinois and was leaving class today and I as I was leaving class traffic was unbelievably crazy. I turned into the road to leave after looking both ways. I look in my rear view mirror and see a guy about to drive into the curb behind me. He pulls up next to me and him and his girlfriend claim that I hit him and I need to pull over. I pull over and the guy points out a scratch on his car and points out a scratch on my car that was already there from me getting hit in a parking lot before. The paint on his front bumper was not the same color as my car and the damage on his car was not at the same height as the damage on my car. He proceeds to demand that I give him my insurance information. I refuse and tell him I didn't his car. He keeps demanding I give him my information. I proceed to tell him if he thinks I hit his car then he can call the police and have them sort it out. He then tells me to just forget and to "watch where I was f***ing going". I think he may have took pictures of my license plate. Am I in the clear legally with my insurance company since he didn't want to call the police. I know I didn't hit him because I didn't hear anything or feel anything. Or is this just a scam? [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 09:10 AM PST Sorry, this is a long text but please bear with me. I started work with my current employer in July 2018. The employer paid $5k to me for a sign on bonus and $2700 lum-sum relocation plus ~$8k in reimbursements (they retained their own relocation company to move my stuff and my car. I never saw the receipts so I don't know how much this cost so I just guessed). Since starting my job, my employer has started to go under. As in, we were given "job training and career help" resources, informed that there would be large layoffs (although not directly who would be affected), and retained a third party to start selling the assets underlying my division of the company. The job description has changed substantially as well. Whereas the job I was offered was working as an investment analyst, I am now performing work selling-off the assets which were once my job. I was informed by my supervisor as well as 3 other senior-level employees to start looking for new employment. As any sane person would have done, I started looking for a new job and I found one. Unfortunately, they want all of the bonus+relocation expenses paid back right when I leave or they are going to send it to collections. I have a great credit score and I really don't want it to go to collections and ruin it. I have 15k saved up in my emergency fund, but I need some of that to help me find a new apartment and move to my new job in a new city. I will also have to pay through the end of my current lease, which is 5k. With this, depending on how much they spent on my move, it will completely liquidate my entire emergency fund. The exact working from my agreement is below: "We will provide you with a one-time sign-on bonus of $5,000 gross, payable as soon as practical after your start date, typically within 60 days. Should you voluntarily terminate your employment with (my division) within 12 months of your start date, you agree to repay the gross amount of the payment made to you." "Should you choose not to complete the relocation or voluntarily terminate employment during the relocation or within one (1) year of the expiration of relocation benefits, (parent company) reserves the right to seek full repayment of all paid or reimbursed relocation costs" Obviously, they want to get their money back. But this whole situation is heart-breaking to me because I truly loved my job before the company had these financial issues. There is no future for me here because they have hired a third party to sell the assets that my original job description was working on. On a day-to-day basis I have been coming into work and sitting at my desk, doing nothing because I have nothing to work on. Obviously, when I took this job I did not intend on leaving it so soon and I really don't want to go but I also don't see how I have another option. This isn't really a "voluntarily" choice. If I can be honest, what it feels like is that they gave vague notice to over 300 employees that there is no future with the company, then expected them to self-select out of the position so they can avoid Connecticut state laws regarding mass layoffs. I felt stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I am obligated to pay all of this back to the company. I can borrow some money from my family to help me make the move to my new place and pay it back in full, but it seems kinda abusive of the company to enforce this policy when they are clearly going out of business. Do I have any legal footing or negotiating power? Is there any legal president with employers who change the job description/unofficially inform employees of their termination then clawing back? Maybe I could pay something like a prorated amount based on my tenure? There are a lot of other people in the same situation as me, so its definitely not a one-off case. Any legal advice or suggestions for how I can make this less financially challenging are appreciated. EDIT: I started looking for new employment and found a great opportunity in a new city. They want me to start ASAP, and it is a big salary increase. I asked about pushing it back given my current situation and they said that they couldn't do later than April 6th, which is when I am starting. So unfortunately, sticking it out in my current position is not an option anymore because I am moving forward with this new job. I realize this exposes me to these costs, which is why I am looking for any type of legal advice about how to move forward. My new employer offered me relocation benefits but couldn't ( or wouldn't) help me pay these obligations. [link] [comments]  |
| Posted: 06 Mar 2018 01:31 PM PST I have no idea if this is the place to put this or ask for advice, but I am getting more and more stressed as the court date gets closer. (March 19th) A little over a month ago, my mom went out to meet with an old friend who was in town, but she was ignoring for weeks due to him being quite a creep, always asking for boob pictures and asking for sex if he's in town. One night she begrudgingly went out with him but did not let me know where she was going (because she didn't want me to argue against going to see him, since I know he is a creep. [her mistake, she knows]). They went to a bar to talk, but she did not want to drink any alcohol as she has a drinking problem and was trying to stop. She told me the last thing she remembers that night is drinking a Diet Coke (poured in a cup by the bartender), then the next thing she knows she's miles away getting CPR from paramedics two days later. They did a rape kit and found two different kinds of semen in her, no STDs or anything. However, they do not have any DNA of potential suspects so they didn't do anything with it. I know who one of them is. Her creepy friend. It has to be. Otherwise, if he didn't instigate it then he definitely could've helped her out and prevented her from being raped. The other person is obvious too, there was a guy hitting on her at the bar and gave her an overall creepy vibe. My mom was begging to get a blood sample and test done but they refused to take the test on her, insisting since she blew 0.31 BAC, it must have been that and nothing else. Now I assume it is too late to show a roofie in her system. It has to have been a roofie because with alcohol you remember at least drinking the alcohol, you don't just stop remembering with no recollection of what happened. That sounds like Amnesia to me. She told her attorney what had happened and I really hope that she is able to put the pieces together and get her off, because if she was arrested while in her roofied state (true) then she shouldn't be held responsible for her actions since roofies literally prevent you from making moral decisions and seeing anything other than the moment. I am so stressed out and frustrated because I have a 99% certainty that this is what happened but oh so afraid of what the court will think given her track record (this is her third DUI). She can potentially be in jail for a year for being taken advantage of. I am so scared but I have no idea what I can do, I have no concrete evidence. She didn't tell the attorney of the creepy friend's track record of being a complete pervert (he is also going through serious mental health issues, so I don't trust his motives on top of being an overall creep and calling her 24/7). She doesn't want to press charges, she just wants to shut down. That's her coping mechanism... This is not her first time being raped (first time being drugged beforehand though) and every other time she has tried to tell authorities all they ever say is "Well, what were you wearing that night?" "Were you wearing make-up?" "Did you move your eyebrow in a some-what seductive manner?" "Did you touch their arm at all during the conversation?" Etc. Etc. They just continue to victimize her like it has nothing to do with the man's restraint or lack thereof. She feels hopeless. On top of that, those are completely bullcrap reasons. Societal norms for women dictate that they have make-up, dress up and be pretty. Plus a majority of the clothes sold today are pretty seductive... But I'm not going to go there. But to iterate, the woman should not be held accountable for the man's lack of restraint. Like WTF. She wasn't even wearing anything super seductive that night, just some jeans a black shirt and she typically doesn't wear a whole lot of make-up. I just really hope her attorney can put the pieces together, I'm sure she can. If a 20 year old can do it... I feel like throwing up because I don't know what to do. Last time she was in jail for two weeks and they didn't give my mom her heart medication, blood pressure medication, or ANY of her medication that she needs to take on a daily basis and I don't know if her body can even make it a year. How many times will she have to pass out in prison for them to realize that it is actually a real issue? What if it's too late by then? I am terrified, and not knowing what is going to happen or what the outcome may be is eating me on the inside... The other option is 6 months in Rehab, an ankle monitor or a Breathalyzer in her car... I don't want to hope for those because I need to prepare for the worst, but given all of this information I feel it would be incredibly heartless to send her to prison. I don't know what I am asking you guys for... Advice? Reassurance? Experience? Insight? Is there anything I, as a 20 year old American with no evidence besides showing her creepy friend's track record, can do besides wallow in my own fear? Edit: TL;DR if you really don't have the time to sympathize.. my mom went out with a creepy guy always trying to get in her pans. Last thing she remembers is drinking a Diet Coke then nothing for two days. Found two different semen inside of her but did not do a blood test for drug testing as she was incredibly drunk. Though she didn't get drunk voluntarily, she got taken advantage of while roofied. I picture a bottle guzzling down her barely conscious throat and that seriously terrifies me. She was arrested for DUI and may be put into jail for a year. Edit Edit: Guys, what's with all the downvotes? I am just telling you what I know and please have some sympathy. This is not a regular alcohol blackout, she of all people should know that. Typically, you don't forget what happened in an instant for TWO whole days. Please, don't make me feel more like shit by not looking into all the details. Yes, she blew a 0.31 but she could have easily been taken advantage of AFTER being roofied, which lines up with what she remembers. Roofies dont make you unconscious like chloroform. It gives you lack of motor control, moral outlook, lack of knowing what the fuck is going on. Your body is essentially on autopilot, daydreaming. You're awake but you have no idea what's going on nor forming any memories of the moment (since thats what roofies give. Amnesia. The lack of ability to FORM memories. Not like a black out drunk where you FORGET pieces of the memory. She has literally NO recollection of anything after taking that sip.) She very easily could have been taken advantage of in that state of mind. [link] [comments]  |
| HOA I don't belong to is asking for dues Posted: 05 Mar 2018 06:09 PM PST This is in Ohio. Late last summer, my family and I bought a house in a nice suburb. Through the process and in all of the papers we signed, nothing was mentioned about an HOA. We've heard from other neighbors that there used to be an HOA in the area, but no one knows the boundaries. Today, though, we received a letter from a neighbor we don't know requesting 50 dollars for "dues". The letter describes the costs to upkeep a small (20-yards long) boulevard and a sign. The letter then says "So, consider this an invoice for your dues, please make out a check to [x] association" (it's not written with any amount of professionalism and sounds pretty snarky to be honest). My inclination is to ignore it, but my question is this: If an HOA does in fact exist, could they have any enforcement power over homeowners who have never agreed to be a part of it? Also, could paying the dues put someone into an implied contract? My wife wants to avoid any drama as we're still new to the neighborhood and certainly don't need any enemies. [link] [comments]  |
| Worked 40-60 hours per week at last job. I was never paid overtime. Is this a violation of FLSA? Posted: 06 Mar 2018 09:06 AM PST At my last job, it was highly common to be scheduled between 40-60 hours a week. I have seen some people that were scheduled at 70 hours in one week, however all part time people were denied any overtime. Full time people were granted overtime for over 40 hours. We were a seasonal type of work, and we usually only work for around 7 months of the year. If someone worked a certain amount of hours in a certain year(I believe over 1200) they were moved to full time the next year, but were not granted any overtime for over 1200 hours. I was just wondering if this is legal and if it is, what laws are allowing them to get around paying out overtime? EDIT: I live in Virginia. [link] [comments]  |
| Ex-employer hacked into my Glassdoor account Posted: 06 Mar 2018 02:21 PM PST Today, I received a stream of notifications through my old work account, which was apparently still synced through my phone. 1 - My work email password has been changed. Out of curiousity, I reset the password and found the following. 2 - A link to reset my Glassdoor password had just been sent to my work email. I have a screenshot of this. Note that I had written a review about my ex-employer with this Glassdoor account. 3 - A notification that my Glassdoor password had been changed. I have a screenshot of this as well. Following this, I quickly reset the password on my Glassdoor account. I also did the Activity Check on my work Gmail and found the IP linking directly to my old employer's office. I have a screenshot of the activity log and IP address. Soon after, my work email password was changed yet again, as well as my recovery email, which I was able to find had been changed to an admin email of the company. I believe my employer may have rights to my company email (although maybe they should be deleting it, not accessing it at this point). However, by resetting and accessing my Glassdoor account with possible intent to remove my review about their company, I think they are in extremely shady territory. What actions can I take? [link] [comments]  |
| purchased laptop, received wrong but compatible ac adapter. Location -USA/CT Posted: 06 Mar 2018 05:40 AM PST I purchased a laptop off a merchant on Amazon. In the past I have been burned by 3rd party sellers on the large tech sites. I took the model of the laptop in question and confirmed what type/rating adapter it should have come with. When i received the laptop the adapter is half the power of the rating on the vendor website. For example, 90W on the website and received a 45W. Now it is compatible and works, but If the vendor states a 90W, i would prefer to receive the properly rated adapter based on the vendors specs. For Reference here are the two links to each page. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B079Y9LS3Y/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 & https://support.hp.com/us-en/document/c05787866 On the merchants description it stated to be Certified Refurbished, but contains all relevant accessories. The description does not make mention of any specific type of adapter. I contacted the merchant about this and i wasn't met with hostility, just that it is compatible and the vendor website lists the maximum rating, that it is Hp compatible, and that it was probably replaced by the vendor themselves. Long story short, [link] [comments]  |
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